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Some of my girlfriends came round to our house for a vodka, cheese and grapes night on Friday evening.
It was very messy.
I kept trying to turn the conversation onto books that we’d all read, but my friends are effing heathens, and don’t read that often. Apparently they have busy lives or something? Fuck knows.
Anyway, somehow the conversation got round to TTG and
That North Eastern Freak Heather McCartney.
We all pretty much agreed that she married him for his greens, but this led onto the discussion of whether or not any of us would ever marry a man even if he was dirt poor.
Being the slightly materialistic girl that I am, I of course said no. My girlfriends
the poor idealistic fools were appalled.
My argument was that it was as easy to fall in love with a rich man, as with a poor man.
I like to think of myself as a romantic pragmatist. Sure, I like to read stories about rich debutante’s falling in love with poor-as-a-church-mouse heroes, but that’s just fantasy.
If you’re a go-getter, how likely are you to fall in love with somebody who thinks it’s a good idea to sit around the house in their smelly undies all day? Whose idea of ambition, is to make it to the off-license (liquor store to you Americans) before closing? How long is that relationship likely to last?
I do realise there are ambitious women out there who have hooked up with such deadbeats,
Britney’s K-Fed but that was never going to be the story of my life.
Whilst I probably wouldn’t ever marry just for money, I think I can safely say, that I would have never hooked up with a guy who couldn’t afford to pay for dinner. Harsh, I know, but hey, I had three jobs whilst I was at university, and if I wanted something, I worked damned hard to get it.
The thing is, my attitude has less to do with the actual money, and more to do with a person’s work ethic, or lack thereof.
If a man doesn’t believe in hard work, how is he going to help look after my babies? If he doesn’t believe in self-improvement, what kind of example is he going to set for my children?
It’s ok to be poor, many people are, but it’s not ok to not want to do better.