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Wednesday, June 11, 2008
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I was listening to the radio in my car yesterday, when I heard the news about the mother who constantly feeds her eighteen month old child, chips (fries to you Americans):

A mum who feeds her 18-month-old baby chips for most meals has been warned she is putting her child’s health at risk.

Angela Boswell’s daughter Courtney was 10lbs 9oz when she was born in December 2006.

But after being fed a fatty, high-salt diet of chips, chocolate and crisps she has rocketed to 30lbs – the size of an average four-year-old.

Courtney is so big that she will star in the ITV show Britain’s Biggest Babies next week.

And the footage will show her scoffing a large portion of chips, which she can polish off in just ten minutes.

Now mum Angela, 33, of Clayton, has been warned by top dieticians that her child is at a worrying weight which could lead to health problems in later life.

Apparently, the mother defended herself, saying that the child just wouldn’t eat anything other than junk food, and that she didn’t think it would have a negative effect on her, when she got older. Dude, the eighteen month old child weighs thirty pounds.

What is wrong with these people?

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  • Not that I condone turning your kid into The Blob, but I can say, some kids really will starve themselves than eat anything but what they want. Maybe her kid is autistic. My son went three days without food because I didn’t give him what he asked for. He was 2. He’ll go a week now if I let him. There’s not a lot of wiggle room, no matter who waxes judgmental. I’ve got family that still say the kid will bend if I force him to. They just haven’t come across the difficulties of dealing with a mind that has no shades of gray.

    Just saying, horrifying as it is, there may be more to the story.

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  • sallahdog
    June 11
    5:35 pm

    my daughter was fully breastfed and at 1 year weighed 30 lbs… Of course I wasn’t feeding her fries, but she was wayyy over the 100percentile for kids that age…

    I remember getting a lot of grief for it from family and friends , but my doctor said that once I started feeding her regular food and she kept growing, she would be fine. and at 3, she was still that 30 lbs, and now at 13 she is a size 3 (her fathers genetics at work)…

    Its hard, because as Dee said, there are children whom have medical conditions that make it almost impossible to keep them on an even keel. I have a neighbor with a son with Prader Willys syndrome that will literally eat constantly (she has to lock the refrigerator and the cupboards in her house)… this boy will come to my house and ask for food… I don’t know if this particular case is bad parenting or what, but I am not willing to judge after watching what my neighbor goes through..

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  • Ghetto Diva
    June 11
    5:46 pm

    I have a daughter who’s going to kindergarten and weighs four pounds more than that 18 month old girl. Doctors did tests on her because they thought she had stomach problems, and maybe that was the reason why she was under weight. Thank god, all of the tests came out negative, and she’s healthy as anyone can be.

    I have a son who’s in second grade. And he’s always been on the scale of slightly over the range of weight for his age. But i have kept his weight down, by providing him with yogurts, fruits, and low fat foods.

    I refuse to believe that it’s okay to let both of my children eat whatever they want. And as a mother, it’s my job to ensure that my kids stay health.

    Angela, needs to wake up and stop feeding that kid unhealthy food. It could be that she is autistic like Dee said, but wouldn’t it be the mom’s responsibility to take her to the hospital to run the proper tests? Whatever it is, Angela obviously needs help in proper nutrition.

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  • There might be physical tests for other issues, but there’s no testing an 18 month old for Autism. They might show “markers” but delayed development isn’t an exact indicator. Some kids are just too young for tests for certain issues.

    For all we know, this kid is a supertaster–another problem of my son’s–which makes most things taste extremely bitter. Maybe salt helps. Maybe the kid is soothed by certain textures. Maybe she can’t afford to go sampling–and wasting–all kinds of food and money looking for options. That kind of thing takes time and the kid is only a year and a half. She can’t have been at it that long. And my son was 30 lbs by that age too. He’s never been on the age scale, not cause he was fat, either. He’s tall and he’s inherited his father’s heavy bone structure.

    One thing I’ve learned from special needs kids over the years, not one kid is at all like the others. There simply are NO absolutes for raising them.

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  • Kids come in all different shapes and sizes. Some are heftier than other and thats okay-as long as they are *eating healthy most of the time*
    Allowances can and should be made for treats.

    Assuming that the child in the article does not have any underlining medical issues, be it autism or not, I am glad that someone is stepping in and saying something to the mother about her food choices.

    To me, over feeding or a constant unhealthy food feeding IS abuse. Just like starving your child is abuse.

    Of course there are fussy kids that have to be taken into account too. Some kids go through stages where they simply don;t want to eat anything. They have tiny stomaches, and with the case of my then 4 year old-he went 3 days eating nothing but crackers before bed. You can’t force them to eat when they are not hungry. I must say that it was a huge relief when he started eating again. Even though I knew that up to that point he had been fed healthy foods, and was not sick in any other way, I was still concerned.

    There are all different reasons why kids eat or don’t eat. Or are over/under weight.
    The only ones I have a problem with are the parents who feed their children *unhealthy* foods *more* than they do healthy foods.
    Which I think, is the case with the woman in the article.
    There could be other factors though. who knows.
    It doesn’t change the fact that there are parents out there who are lazy and uncaring-so they just feed the kids whatever they want to keep down the tempertandrums or whatever. I know a couple of them.

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  • @sallahdog
    I am a lactation consultant, and you wont believe the amount of mothers who say to me “my sister/mother/aunt/friend say that my breastfed baby is too fat”

    Ugh! *eye roll*

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  • People have no idea how bad a diet of junk food is for kids. We’re seeing adult onset diabetes showing up in kids not even in their teens yet.

    Why?

    Their diets.

    No exercise.

    The predisposition may not be something the parent can control, but the diet and making sure they get exercise? The parent can control it.

    Poor little girl.

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  • This is just the nurse in me speaking, but I suspect if the child had an emotional or developmental disorder that in some way explained why Mom lets her eat junk food just because that’s all she’ll eat…well, it probably would have been mentioned in the article.

    These parents realize they should try to get the child to eat better, but with certain things goind on, it’s hard.

    But too often I’ve seen things like this where the diet stems from the parent being too frustrated, or not understanding the risks. I know what it’s like to have a picky eater, but the child can’t be allowed to dictate their health, but when the parent gives in, that’s sort of what I see is happening.

    Just my opinion, and granted most of it comes from 7+ years of seeing kids who ate just a little too much, a little too early during infancy and are now going into kindergarten weighing more than my 9 year old does-so my opinion may be a little skewed. I just worry about the health of the current generation of kids. 🙁

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  • I know what it’s like to have a picky eater, but the child can’t be allowed to dictate their health, but when the parent gives in, that’s sort of what I see is happening.

    Very well said. I’m all for kids making their own choices. I encourage it with mine. But when the choices they make are putting their health in dire jeopardy, then parents must step in.

    Too bad it isn’t more of a black and white issue where there is one easy answer.

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  • Mara
    June 11
    8:17 pm

    That this woman is willing to put her baby on TV to be pointed at and made fun of by the world at large tells me all I need to know about her. Disgraceful.

    I think, in cases like this, that the parents simply don’t know how to raise a child and feed it properly. While some women have a maternal instinct that helps in the raising of kids, there are a lot of women who have none whatsoever. And even with good instincts, there is plenty to learn. Childcare needs to be taught in schools, as required a subject as reading and math.

    People have to have an education for all sorts of careers, but so seldom is anyone learning the complexities of child-rearing. Until that problem is addressed, let alone resolved, stories like this will continue.

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  • There was a woman in my hometown who did this not many years ago. The baby was humongous; made a couple of appearances on TV shows, the family got donations from concerned people, healthy food, pull-ups, toys and such. When her second child came along it died from some mystery wasting disease at a young age. She had a third child, and it too died young. The woman was eventually diagnosed with Munchhausen-by-Proxy. The fat child was taken away and put with relatives to live. He lost a lot of pounds in only a few months time. Last time I heard he’s well on the way to recovering to a normal weight.

    I’m not wanting to point fingers as I know little about this woman you’re talking about. But if she’s getting a great deal of attention through the media, I for one would be just a little suspicious.

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  • eggs
    June 12
    1:33 am

    I’ve got a 100% breastfed baby – just started solids – sitting on my lap right now who weighed 10kg (dunno the pounds) at his 6 month check up last month. Some babies are just fat. That being said, there’s no reason on earth that mother had to introduce hot chips to a baby – and she must have been a little baby when she started eating them. What ever happened to starting of with porridge and mashed pumpkin??

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  • Lori
    June 12
    2:49 am

    Soon we’ll be seeing pre-teens having gastric-bypass surgery and their parents saying, “Well, we’re doing something about their weight.” It’s scary.

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  • I agree with eggs. What kind of parent feeds an infant fries?

    My SIL fed my nieces biscuits (the southern kind not the cookie kind) before they were 2 months old so they would sleep through the night. She is not in their lives now (thank you Jesus) but she set them up for all sorts of nasty diseases later on in life.

    Poor parenting is when parents take the easy road rather than the hard road even when it is detrimental to the child. The woman in that article is a poor parent.

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  • Love of broccoli begins in womb – Maybe the mother shouldn’t have eaten as many chips while pregnant.

    I’ve seen plenty of kids eat from veggie platters, as long as there was Ranch dressing. Maybe this mother could start the baby off with battered veggie bites with dip to get the baby used to seeing vegetables, then offer the veggies raw occasionally while the rest of the family is eating from the veggie platter. I got a baby to eat green beans he was refusing by putting cream of mushroom soup on them, then letting him pick them up and feed himself from his walker tray.

    The mother could also “slip” in vegetables like the recent book controversy. Ideally a kid would eat veggies on their own, but I wouldn’t criticize someone for slipping in veggies in cases like this one. I’ve heard that foods decorated up cutely should appeal to kids, but I have no experience with that. Maybe slipping some veggies into a baby bento might work.

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  • Dawn
    June 12
    11:19 am

    This reminds me of a programme that was on British TV a few weeks back called “Too Fat to Toddle”.

    In this were 5 kids (4-5 years old) who ranged from quite chubby to obese and in all the cases the parents were feeding them adult sized portions or filling them up with junk.

    They spent a few days at a sort of “fat camp” where the parents were told the blunt facts of what they were doing to the kids and they were shown the correct foods and portion sizes for the kids’ ages.

    They all did very well, except one couple where the dad kept undermining the mum and giving their kids sweets, purely because he was such a sap and couldn’t bear to see his kids not getting what they wanted to have.

    I still have a bit of a problem with my 12-year-old daughter as she is a picky eater. She is by no means fat, but if she doesn’t eat what I cook for dinner, then she doesn’t get anything else, and there have been many evenings where she has not had any dinner. She’s learned now that I’m not going to give in to her.

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  • Ghetto Diva
    June 12
    12:19 pm

    My SIL fed my nieces biscuits (the southern kind not the cookie kind) before they were 2 months old so they would sleep through the night. She is not in their lives now (thank you Jesus) but she set them up for all sorts of nasty diseases later on in life.

    Oh my god! At 2 months? Those poor babies!

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  • This behavior is becoming an epidemic in the US. I know of quite a few people who only feed their kids boxed or frozen food. Fish sticks, chicken nuggets, fries – all of those types of foods will lead to early heart problems.

    IMO, we have two things going on here – many young people don’t know HOW to eat in a healthy manner and with the skyrocketing prices of food, many can’t afford it any longer.

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  • I M A
    June 12
    2:32 pm

    I can only say that a local radio station was discussing this and they all seemed horrified that an 18-month old was eating “table” food. They seemed to be under the impression that all/most 18-month olds only ate baby food. Let me add that to the best of my knowledge most of these people DO have kids themselves. Believe me, I am what is/would be considered a picky eater but I assure you my parents never fed me chips, chocolate and or coca-cola when I was 18-months old. @@ As forementioned radio people said, the mom is responsible for feeding her child this junk, the 18-month old isn’t the one doing the grocery shopping. 🙂 Better yet, how does an 18-month old make it known that he/she wants chips, chocolate and/or coca-cola? Sorry, but that mother is an asshat who feeds her child what she (the mother) wants to feed him/her. And than has the bollocks to blame it on the child.

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  • To all the parents whose children want chicken nuggets all the time, I’m going to share this recipe I got from Nigella Lawson that my daughter loves and they’re relatively healthy (baked, not fried…though you can fry them in a pinch…but use a good oil like Canola and it hardly takes anything to cook them up at a medium low temp with just a touch of oil rather than dunking them in like they do at fast food places.)

    I buy organic chicken strips (wait til they’re on sale!), cut them in half, soak them in buttermilk with salt & pepper overnight. I crush up a sleeve of Ritz crackers, then take the nuggets out of the marinade and toss with the cracker crumbs. Lay those on a cookie sheet and freeze.

    After frozen, you stick them in a freezer bag and take out at will. You can BAKE them for about 15 minutes in a 400 degree oven and get yummy, semi-healthy nuggets. NO FRYING and loads of flavor and juicy.

    Chips/fries can be made in the oven. They may not taste exactly like what you get from McDonald’s, but it will ease the craving. In fact, if you check the labels, most frozen fries (like Ore-ida) are a lot healthier than the fast food ones–if you bake them!

    I have terrible eating habits, not because of my parents, but because of teenage years where I could eat whatever I wanted and never gain an ounce. Then I stopped dancing 3 hours a day and have struggled with my weight ever since. I’m trying SO hard not to pass my bad habits on to my daughter. It’s hard because she is a picky eater and she loves junk food like any kid does, but no one said this parenting thing was easy!

    The saddest part is that with prices going up like mad, it’s harder to be able to afford better food. Fruits, vegetables, organic meat…it’s ridiculous. It’s so much cheaper and easier to cook badly…or not cook at all.

    The fact that this woman is willing to put her child on television says LOADS about her, IMO. There should be a law against shows that show children in a negative light for all the world to see.

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  • Bewildered
    June 12
    4:33 pm

    it’s child abuse, plain and simple.

    the government should be stepping in, taking the kid away and determining what the problem is – if it’s a physical problem then the kid needs medical help.

    but if not then the kid should be placed in foster care and the parent/s told that they’re not getting him/her back until they shape up.

    these kids are DYING. They’re going to implode in their teens and then the parents are going to be wringing their hands and asking “what did we do wrong?” or blaming society.

    save the kids. Take them AWAY – screw being politically correct or offending the family. This is life or death for the child.

    no one ever speaks for them…

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  • Claudia
    June 12
    4:55 pm

    I see a lot of babies eating table food. From sandwhich shops to fine restuarants, some parents almost prod the kids to sample the food and “eat/act like big boys and girls”. Food like fries are very popular because they’re easy hold, and kids are seemingly able to suck on them and/or mash them in their mouths without choking.

    Solid food aside, constant consumption of juice and other sugary beverages isn’t helping youngsters’ teeth or weight either.

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  • Okay, someone has to clue me in. Are y’all saying an 18 month old SHOULDN’T eat table food?

    My girls are 15 months old. They have 8 teeth. They’re typical weight for their age and they are getting so they all but reject baby food, with exception to breast milk. I’m not stuffing french fries down their throats, but there’s nothing wrong with them eating table food if it’s soft enough and in small enough portions. Most babies sample non-pureed food after age one. By 18 months, I’m pretty sure my girls are going to be able to take down their own cow.

    Well, you know, other than me.

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  • Ah, sorry, I missed Bewildered’s post:

    Hon, while I appreciate your wanting to save the children, the prospect of any government being able to take my children away at the drop of a hat freaks me the hell out. Clearly, you’ve never been at the mercy of a government official. And you’ve never had the experience of what happens to kids in the already overloaded foster care system. Here’s what will happen.

    ANYONE says you look at your kids wrong, CPS comes and takes them away WHILE they investigate you. This will take weeks, if not months. (Bet on months) Kids are uprooted, often separated, and wait for you to be cleared, often falling behind in studies to say nothing of any possible abuses they might face from the new homes that YOU cannot vett out. Your life will be inspected in every minutia and if you are cleared, you will remain on their radar and subject to investigation at any time. It remains in your record.

    Thankfully, that kind of thing won’t happen because we’re required to be innocent until proven guilty. Not that you’re treated like it when you DO get investigated by CPS. Hopefully, you’ll never learn what happens when the government goes to extremes.

    Dee

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  • Jenns
    June 12
    5:55 pm

    I have a problem with anyone who parades their child on television to be ridiculed and judged. Kind of raises a flag about this woman, right there.
    Sad. And scary.

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  • Okay, someone has to clue me in. Are y’all saying an 18 month old SHOULDN’T eat table food?

    No. The problem is *unhealthy* food.
    My children never had ‘baby food’ They started on breastmilk then around 9 or 10 months started to eat whatever I was eating.
    If I was having chicken and carrots, then they had the same thing. Never did I buy the jar baby food or infant cereals.
    Those cereals… Pablum or whatever, were actually invented for infants who were not able to thrive on breastmilk or formula alone. It was never intended to be a meal source for healthy babies.
    The makers of it got on the bandwagon that they could make money with the whole iron thing and decided to market and sell it as a food source for every day kids.
    It’s unnecessary. Unfortunately, parents are so brain washed by old school doctors and their mothers/grandmothers that they really think that the only way to get iron into kids is to feed them pablum.

    Most healthy breastfed babies don’t even *need* anything other than breastmilk till they are a year old. Some babies see solid foods and want to try it younger, say, around the 7 or 8 month mark. Thats fine, go for it-you can’t hurt a baby by feeding it healthy solids at that age.

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  • I agree with Dee that throughout the United States the CPS have been given too much power, and too often abuse that power. As an agency it definitely needs a major overhaul so it serves as a protecting force for children instead of a disrupting one. As it is I believe the thousands who work within it’s system see the hasty trend of disrupting families as only excuse to legitimize their job security. I look at the situations recently in Texas as startling evidence as to this terrible trend. Whether we approve of a religious community’s beliefs or not, to separate children from parents because of a phone call from a person with a history of making up lies should NOT happen.

    This issue aside, I remain skeptical of any parent who makes the media rounds with their child.

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  • I agree with Dee–bringing in an agency that will probably take the kid away and place them somewhere a heck of a lot worse is not a solution.

    About feeding your children…I could not breastfeed. If I would have persisted after 4 weeks, my daughter might have starved. My body simply did not produce the amount of milk she needed to thrive, which she did even though I supplemented her with formula and then switched her entirely to formula. Because of acid reflux and colic, she also had cereal in her formula very early on, but never ate it “straight.” She ate baby food and switched to “people” food later on. She is a very picky eater, but I never had trouble keeping her fed. Yes, she went through her “macaroni and cheese” only phase, and I’ve learned to make it home-made and keep as many chemicals and such from processed foods out of her system, but I’m also a realist and sometimes, it’s better to eat out of a box than eat nothing.

    Parents need to be able to make their own choices without someone else imposing what they think is the “only” way. You would not believe (well, maybe you would) the crap I got from lactation specialists because I could not breast feed or because I was supplementing with formula. I was told I wasn’t trying hard enough, I didn’t want it bad enough, I wasn’t a good enough mother to care about the starving children in Africa who were dying because of the formula conglomerates. It was ridiculous. It was my pediatrician who finally told me to stop trying to breastfeed (and pumping).

    My daughter has an IQ that is off the scale. She had one ear-infection her whole life and has zero excess body fat. She drinks nothing but water (by choice) and acts like any typical kid…doesn’t listen, can’t make her bed without me asking three times, etc. In other words, she’s normal. But according to the La Leche Nazis, I was dooming my child to being subpar and sickly because I wasn’t bleeding at the breasts to feed her right.

    Not that I’m sensitive about this topic or anything.

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  • Ah, was waiting for that. You can’t ever say anything about breastfeeding or else someone swoops in to mention nazis.

    I actually do believe the crap you may have gotten from people. I’m a expert in this field, I know for a fact that there are women who can’t breastfeed, and I know that there are some in my profession who are not kind to all mothers who decide to switch to formula, for whatever reason.

    Please do not lump us all into the same category and use the nazi word. Otherwise I’ll pull out the formucrap word, and thats not nice either.

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  • KayCee
    June 13
    3:06 am

    To the best of my VERY limited knowledge when it comes to child rearing (I have none) and what my mom has told me (she has/had 4) once a child has teeth, table food is fine. Soft food, that is. Mashed potatoes, peas, bananas, stuff like that.

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  • I breastfed until my kids decided that my nipples were for chewing off my breasts with their very pretty, very white, very sharp little teeth (they both teethed early and in a matter of days had a bunch of teeth, the freaks–said lovingly, in case they ever read this).

    Once they started trying to separate my nipples from the rest of my person, I weaned them to formula and solid food as quick as I could–and frankly, considering they both were over 7mos old and healthy as horses, I won’t apologize for it.

    Each case is different, and some children have many more issues with food than the norm. In this case, with such minimal knowledge, I do suspect the mother is going for the “least noise out of you and least offer out of me” school of rearing.

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  • LOL, then my youngest would have been ready at 9 weeks (No joke. Two top and two bottom teeth at just nine weeks of age)
    I do giggle at that reason though, hehe.

    The reason you should delay solid food is because feeding it too early harms the digestive system. That is not something that can easily be fixed, and it sets your child up for all sorts of problems in the future. Obesity just one of them.
    Hydrochloric acid, which is needed to break down protein does not even show up in a child stomach until 8 or more months.

    (Now waiting for the parents who fed solids at 2 3 4 etc months to come on and say how their child is perfect and healthy.) Good, I’m glad they are perfect. So are mine, hers, and his 😛

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  • Each case is different, and some children have many more issues with food than the norm. In this case, with such minimal knowledge, I do suspect the mother is going for the “least noise out of you and least offer out of me” school of rearing.

    I agree with you.

    We totally got side tracked on this thread.
    Sorry, karen!

    Just wondering if anyone here will watch the show?

    Whatever happens, I hope they can help the kid, and the mother.

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  • Chantal, I probably shouldn’t have trotted out that word, but you have to understand how damaging this experience was to my psyche at perhaps the most vulnerable time in a woman’s life. I’m a HUGE advocate now for women realizing that they have CHOICES and that they are not going to scar their children for life if they choose not to breastfeed…even if they CAN. There’s enough pressure in mothering as it is to add this one more layer.

    That said, I don’t lump all breastfeeding specialists together. The second one I had was wonderful and was the only person in the whole hospital to realize that the Percocet I was on for my c-section (which yes, makes breastfeeding harder, but that SO wasn’t my issue) was making me really loopy. If not for her, I would have been discharged without understanding a word anyone said to me, though clearly, I acted as if I did. Even my husband didn’t realize how whacked out I was!

    And for the record, I think it’s AWESOME that most women can breastfeed and that they do. It’s the most natural and economic and “green” way to feed a baby. I wish I could have, in all practical ways. Washing bottles wasn’t fun! Paying $20 a can for a two-day supply of formula wasn’t fun (and this is special order, because at the time, my brand wasn’t carried in stores.) I’d definitely encourage a woman to try…I just wouldn’t make her feel horrible if it didn’t work out.

    I would not watch this show. I do not believe in the exploitation of children for the vanity of crazy parents.

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  • ack!!! Reading Chantal quoting me, I realized I used one word instead of another, and it doesn’t make sense. It should say:

    Each case is different, and some children have many more issues with food than the norm. In this case, with such minimal knowledge, I do suspect the mother is going for the “least noise out of you and least effort out of me” school of child rearing.

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  • sallahdog
    June 13
    6:45 am

    I breastfed for a long time (18 months and 15months), and it worked well for me, I didn’t do it out of “oh this is the best”, but literally because I wanted to stay home while the kids were young, and we had to make some hard financial choices… It was either breast feed, or use cloth diapers… (yeah, there was no way I was doing the cloth diaper route)…

    I think women need to be a lot more understanding of other womens choices, with breastfeeding, staying at home, etc… We are so much harder on each other, than men are. I guess bringing it back to this lady, is she neglectful? Maybe, but I am not willing to say her kid needs to be taken away from her, or she should be stoned in the street. Hopefully, through this show, she will learn some coping stradegies and how to feed her child correctly.

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  • As someone who worked for CPS for five years I doubt they would do a removal under these circumstances, at least not in my state. I had a couple of similar cases. Typically we would consult with a nutritionist and try to work with the parents on a better eating plan. It’s crucial to get at the underlying issues as to why something like this would happen. Usually the parent is overwhelmed and in need of assistance in making better choices. Unless the child was in immediate danger, I can’t imagine doing a removal in a case like that, but certainly intervention of some type would be in order.

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  • Julie, I do understand. I agree with some of what you say.
    I should not have gotten snarky either.
    I know that it’s a touchy subject. I’m sorry.

    Right now I am dealing with 2 women in my town who took a weeks worth of breastfeeding classes, and are going around calling themselves lactation consultants. One of them is a nurse and thinks that the little she learned in nursing school 10 years ago, plus this class, makes her opinion true. They are really making the rest of us, who are trained experts, look bad.

    Unfortunately, ‘lactation consultant’ is not a protected titled. Pretty much anyone can read a book on breastfeeding and call themselves one. Thats why the IBCLC was established (International board certified lactation consultants)

    A true lactation specialist will have the letters IBCLC behind her name.

    Of course, there are rotten apples in all jobs.

    And many hospital don’t requre that LC’s be certified IBCLCs. Sigh.

    That has nthing to do with you though. I guess it was just getting my on my nerves having to defend myself and others in my profession agianst these possers, and then hearing nazi set me off.
    I should have left it at the door and stayed on the topic at hand.

    Anyhow, I would not watch the show on my dish. Too bad it wasn’t a show about how to HELP these families.
    Show them the basic food pyramid, for crying out loud.

    I just re read the article and I missed this the first time,

    “She drinks milk and sometimes Coke between her meals but she is very active.

    There is no reason for that. No reason for an 18 month old to drink coke.
    I can count on one hand the amount of times my almost 6 year old has had pop. Sheesh.

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  • kristenmary
    June 13
    8:59 pm

    My son is 18 months old and weighs 28 lbs. According to the chart at the ped. he is in the 75% area for his weight, he’s off the chart for his height at 35″. He does not eat fries or chips or drink soda, though my MIL would love to feed him that crap. He eats heatlthy foods, fruits and veggies with chicken and fish. I wonder how tall that child is since they seem to think she is obese and she’s only 2 lbs more than my son who is definitely not.

    Julie, I’m with you on the breastfeeding. I tried and managed to make some milk for the first four months. But if my baby had to survive on just me he wouldn’t have thrived like he did. We supplemented with formula early on and, although I’m partial, I think my son is very bright for his age. I was given the speech a number of times how breastfeeding was best. But not everyone, including the LC at the hospital, was unsupportive. Most helped me figure out how to keep my baby happy and keep my milk supply coming in, as little as it did.

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  • Angie
    June 17
    2:05 am

    I worked for CPS for several years, and in my state you reeeeaaaaally have to want to lose your child for them to be removed. We make every effort to keep children with their parents…there’s an infamous judge around here who is known to curse out case workers in court if he feels that a child was removed unnecessarily.

    I once heard of a case of a child being removed for being obese. My immediate thought was that it must be really nice to be a social worker in a state with so little real abuse.

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