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	<title>Comments on: Should Women Be Allowed To Give Birth At Age 70?</title>
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		<title>By: MD</title>
		<link>http://karenknowsbest.com/2008/12/11/should-women-be-allowed-to-give-birth-at-age-70/comment-page-1/#comment-27672</link>
		<dc:creator>MD</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 17:36:50 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I think it is utterly selfish to have a child at that age. She should be ashamed of herself.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I think it is utterly selfish to have a child at that age. She should be ashamed of herself.</p>
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		<title>By: KristieJ</title>
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		<dc:creator>KristieJ</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 13:17:55 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I dunno - I just think menopause is nature&#039;s way of saying &#039;time&#039;s up&#039;.
But having said that - I had my sons in my 20&#039;s and never went though the heartbreak of wanting children and not being able to conceive.  But 70 does strike me as being too old.  And in the case stated, as a woman myself, the reasons just seem wrong.  In that culture it just burns the latent feminist in me that more value is placed on men then on women.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I dunno &#8211; I just think menopause is nature&#8217;s way of saying &#8216;time&#8217;s up&#8217;.<br />
But having said that &#8211; I had my sons in my 20&#8217;s and never went though the heartbreak of wanting children and not being able to conceive.  But 70 does strike me as being too old.  And in the case stated, as a woman myself, the reasons just seem wrong.  In that culture it just burns the latent feminist in me that more value is placed on men then on women.</p>
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		<title>By: Kat</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kat</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 09:25:11 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Karen, I&#039;m not trying to sell it. I just think it can be a very powerful motivator to the point where a person feels defined by it and therefore can&#039;t see past it. Also, the cultural argument about rearing children in community rather than nuclear families is, I think, a valid one. (By which I mean a child raised like that won&#039;t necessarily be worse off.)

And I do think the doctor should be held accountable because he has the benefit of distance from the issue and, one would assume, a hell of a lot of education. Even in that news article, the gynaecologist seemed appalled by the circumstances, so as Lolita commented, I think this is a fringe case. And yes, Karen, I think the doctor likely did it for reasons more selfish than not.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Karen, I&#8217;m not trying to sell it. I just think it can be a very powerful motivator to the point where a person feels defined by it and therefore can&#8217;t see past it. Also, the cultural argument about rearing children in community rather than nuclear families is, I think, a valid one. (By which I mean a child raised like that won&#8217;t necessarily be worse off.)</p>
<p>And I do think the doctor should be held accountable because he has the benefit of distance from the issue and, one would assume, a hell of a lot of education. Even in that news article, the gynaecologist seemed appalled by the circumstances, so as Lolita commented, I think this is a fringe case. And yes, Karen, I think the doctor likely did it for reasons more selfish than not.</p>
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		<title>By: Karen Scott</title>
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		<dc:creator>Karen Scott</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 08:24:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>The same cultures that place pressure on women to bear sons, are the same ones who kill off their girl children, at the drop of a hat, so I&#039;m not sold on the cultural arguments.

I agree that doctors should be more responsible in these kind of cases, but seeing as (in my opinion of course) a good percentage of them suffer from some sort of God complex, I&#039;m really not surprised that they went through with this.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The same cultures that place pressure on women to bear sons, are the same ones who kill off their girl children, at the drop of a hat, so I&#8217;m not sold on the cultural arguments.</p>
<p>I agree that doctors should be more responsible in these kind of cases, but seeing as (in my opinion of course) a good percentage of them suffer from some sort of God complex, I&#8217;m really not surprised that they went through with this.</p>
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		<title>By: Las</title>
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		<dc:creator>Las</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 03:40:12 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>&quot;Third, I can attest to the fact that there are cultures where the extended family is THE family. There is no separate nuclear family–at least, not in a practical sense. These extended families live together and make decisions as a unit and feel a responsibility for the welfare of the entire household. In that kind of situation, I don’t think a child would be any more emotionally disadvantaged than usual if the parents passed away even before the child reached maturity.&quot;

This is absolutely true, so in this particular case I&#039;m not that worried about the children&#039;s future (except for all the damn debt they&#039;re inheriting).

I would never want our governments making laws in regards to this stuff, because once they start meddling in our private affairs they never fucking stop. However, I really wish the medical community would do a better job at policing themselves in these situations. Do you have any idea how often doctors refuse to perform life-saving surgeries on patients they feel are too old and might die on the table, just because they don&#039;t want to mess up their numbers? But geriatric childbirth is just fine and dandy because, awwww, wook at the cute widdle baaaaaabieeees!!!! 

I&#039;m sorry, just because a patient can scrounge up the money for ART doesn&#039;t mean they should get it. I already have some major ethical concerns about that whole business (more with fertility drugs and the possibility of grand-order multiples than with IVF), but the effects of age on health and, therefore, the ability to parent, is not even a debatable point, so that&#039;s one area where it would be reasonable to set a limit. I don&#039;t care about the hows or whys a woman hasn&#039;t had children by the time she reaches 60, it&#039;s too late. And if she DOES have children but she simply decides she needs MORE...well, fuck her. Seriously, that&#039;s bullshit and there&#039;s no reason to even consider catering to her wishes.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Third, I can attest to the fact that there are cultures where the extended family is THE family. There is no separate nuclear family–at least, not in a practical sense. These extended families live together and make decisions as a unit and feel a responsibility for the welfare of the entire household. In that kind of situation, I don’t think a child would be any more emotionally disadvantaged than usual if the parents passed away even before the child reached maturity.&#8221;</p>
<p>This is absolutely true, so in this particular case I&#8217;m not that worried about the children&#8217;s future (except for all the damn debt they&#8217;re inheriting).</p>
<p>I would never want our governments making laws in regards to this stuff, because once they start meddling in our private affairs they never fucking stop. However, I really wish the medical community would do a better job at policing themselves in these situations. Do you have any idea how often doctors refuse to perform life-saving surgeries on patients they feel are too old and might die on the table, just because they don&#8217;t want to mess up their numbers? But geriatric childbirth is just fine and dandy because, awwww, wook at the cute widdle baaaaaabieeees!!!! </p>
<p>I&#8217;m sorry, just because a patient can scrounge up the money for ART doesn&#8217;t mean they should get it. I already have some major ethical concerns about that whole business (more with fertility drugs and the possibility of grand-order multiples than with IVF), but the effects of age on health and, therefore, the ability to parent, is not even a debatable point, so that&#8217;s one area where it would be reasonable to set a limit. I don&#8217;t care about the hows or whys a woman hasn&#8217;t had children by the time she reaches 60, it&#8217;s too late. And if she DOES have children but she simply decides she needs MORE&#8230;well, fuck her. Seriously, that&#8217;s bullshit and there&#8217;s no reason to even consider catering to her wishes.</p>
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		<title>By: West</title>
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		<dc:creator>West</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 01:31:25 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Wow. Spend the day baking and I miss all the fun. 

I have to agree, this is a serious case of extreme fucktardism for me. I too am a child of older parents (although nowhere near 70), and I&#039;ve spend most of my life taking care of them, since they started having age-related health issues when I was a teen.

Merleon, no one here said to sterilize women. We are simply saying that there comes a time when doctors should really question doing this proceedure on patients. It&#039;s one thing to have children in your teens, 20s,30,40s, and run the risk of dying of unforseen circumstances. But it&#039;s another thing entirely to go out and deliberately get pregnant when you *know* there is a damn good chance that your death is fairly imminent. And at 70, you have to figure dying soon is a strong possiblity. How long do they figure they really have with this kid? And if they are really doing this just to have an heir, well, that&#039;s a buttcrack stupid reason to have kids. You should have kids because you want them, you love them, and you want to see them grow up.

The major issue for me here is selfishness. Doing something like this, and then hoping family will take care of the child when you kick the bucket? And I don&#039;t care what they say, I don&#039;t believe their reason behind this. I understand there are cultures where male children are valued more, but saying you did this to have an heir, but then not being able to leave them anything...well, that&#039;s just bullshit. They would have been told how expensive this was, and they would have known it would drain their money. The did it anyway, putting themselves in debt, so I just don&#039;t believe their excuse. 

And more than the parents, I blame the doctors. This is a case of doctors doing something just to prove they can. They could have turned this patient down, saying it&#039;s not medically sound for someone of that age to do this (and doctors turn people down for all kinds of things for this reason, if they don&#039;t have an agenda). They didn&#039;t, and I&#039;m willing to bet they patted themselves on the backs for sucessfully impregnating a 70 year old woman. 

So I reiterate, and stand by my opinion. Extreme fucktardism.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Wow. Spend the day baking and I miss all the fun. </p>
<p>I have to agree, this is a serious case of extreme fucktardism for me. I too am a child of older parents (although nowhere near 70), and I&#8217;ve spend most of my life taking care of them, since they started having age-related health issues when I was a teen.</p>
<p>Merleon, no one here said to sterilize women. We are simply saying that there comes a time when doctors should really question doing this proceedure on patients. It&#8217;s one thing to have children in your teens, 20s,30,40s, and run the risk of dying of unforseen circumstances. But it&#8217;s another thing entirely to go out and deliberately get pregnant when you *know* there is a damn good chance that your death is fairly imminent. And at 70, you have to figure dying soon is a strong possiblity. How long do they figure they really have with this kid? And if they are really doing this just to have an heir, well, that&#8217;s a buttcrack stupid reason to have kids. You should have kids because you want them, you love them, and you want to see them grow up.</p>
<p>The major issue for me here is selfishness. Doing something like this, and then hoping family will take care of the child when you kick the bucket? And I don&#8217;t care what they say, I don&#8217;t believe their reason behind this. I understand there are cultures where male children are valued more, but saying you did this to have an heir, but then not being able to leave them anything&#8230;well, that&#8217;s just bullshit. They would have been told how expensive this was, and they would have known it would drain their money. The did it anyway, putting themselves in debt, so I just don&#8217;t believe their excuse. </p>
<p>And more than the parents, I blame the doctors. This is a case of doctors doing something just to prove they can. They could have turned this patient down, saying it&#8217;s not medically sound for someone of that age to do this (and doctors turn people down for all kinds of things for this reason, if they don&#8217;t have an agenda). They didn&#8217;t, and I&#8217;m willing to bet they patted themselves on the backs for sucessfully impregnating a 70 year old woman. </p>
<p>So I reiterate, and stand by my opinion. Extreme fucktardism.</p>
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		<title>By: K. Z. Snow</title>
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		<dc:creator>K. Z. Snow</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 12 Dec 2008 00:26:49 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Just another reason that country is so godawfully crammed with people.  (I vowed not to go into a rant about planetary overpopulation, so I&#039;ll shuffle off now.)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Just another reason that country is so godawfully crammed with people.  (I vowed not to go into a rant about planetary overpopulation, so I&#8217;ll shuffle off now.)</p>
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		<title>By: Lolita Lopez</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lolita Lopez</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:38:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>AztecLady, awww, thanks for understanding! I mean, my first response was a whopping WTF, but I always think it&#039;s best to count cases like this one as fringe cases, not as indicators of normalcy. By and large, reproductive endocrinologists have made huge strides in the ethics of fertility treatment. They used to place four or five or more embryos in a woman&#039;s uterus to up the chances of successful transfer--but then they had a rash of high-order multiples (triplets or higher.) Now they transfer embryos based on age and hormonal panel factors and typically no more than 2 at a time. The instances of high-risk pregnancy are very low now--and that&#039;s a good thing.

Oh, and I too found it rather odd that this couple wanted a son to inherit but then went into debt. That makes absolutely no sense. And, yes, I figure they used sex selection to ensure a male baby.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>AztecLady, awww, thanks for understanding! I mean, my first response was a whopping WTF, but I always think it&#8217;s best to count cases like this one as fringe cases, not as indicators of normalcy. By and large, reproductive endocrinologists have made huge strides in the ethics of fertility treatment. They used to place four or five or more embryos in a woman&#8217;s uterus to up the chances of successful transfer&#8211;but then they had a rash of high-order multiples (triplets or higher.) Now they transfer embryos based on age and hormonal panel factors and typically no more than 2 at a time. The instances of high-risk pregnancy are very low now&#8211;and that&#8217;s a good thing.</p>
<p>Oh, and I too found it rather odd that this couple wanted a son to inherit but then went into debt. That makes absolutely no sense. And, yes, I figure they used sex selection to ensure a male baby.</p>
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		<title>By: Lolita Lopez</title>
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		<dc:creator>Lolita Lopez</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:28:29 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Kat, I agree. It&#039;s the ethics of this particular case that fascinate and trouble me. I also think we have to be clear in defining the age groups we&#039;re discussing. I see a huge difference in a woman in, say, her mid-forties using ART to boost her chances because of low ovarian reserve and/or impending menopause and a woman in, let&#039;s be honest, the early stages of geriatric care pumping her body full of hormones she likely doesn&#039;t even produce in any substantial quantity. I can&#039;t even imagine what kind of damage she&#039;s done to her poor body. Also the risk of maternal death must be huge. I would assume birth defects are not an issue since donor eggs and sperm were likely used.

And I think we have to be careful in defining one&#039;s ability to access ART based on whether a patient would be able to perform as a caretaker. Men and women facing terminal illness choose to use ART to become pregnant knowing that they or their partner probably won&#039;t live to see their child grow.

I think, generally, people don&#039;t care if a patient uses ART so long as the patient falls within the natural childbearing age group. It&#039;s when reproductive endocrinologists push the boundaries of ethics that people have WTF moments like the ones inspired by this mindfuck of a case.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Kat, I agree. It&#8217;s the ethics of this particular case that fascinate and trouble me. I also think we have to be clear in defining the age groups we&#8217;re discussing. I see a huge difference in a woman in, say, her mid-forties using ART to boost her chances because of low ovarian reserve and/or impending menopause and a woman in, let&#8217;s be honest, the early stages of geriatric care pumping her body full of hormones she likely doesn&#8217;t even produce in any substantial quantity. I can&#8217;t even imagine what kind of damage she&#8217;s done to her poor body. Also the risk of maternal death must be huge. I would assume birth defects are not an issue since donor eggs and sperm were likely used.</p>
<p>And I think we have to be careful in defining one&#8217;s ability to access ART based on whether a patient would be able to perform as a caretaker. Men and women facing terminal illness choose to use ART to become pregnant knowing that they or their partner probably won&#8217;t live to see their child grow.</p>
<p>I think, generally, people don&#8217;t care if a patient uses ART so long as the patient falls within the natural childbearing age group. It&#8217;s when reproductive endocrinologists push the boundaries of ethics that people have WTF moments like the ones inspired by this mindfuck of a case.</p>
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		<title>By: Kat</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kat</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Dec 2008 23:17:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>AztecLady, I don&#039;t agree with it at all, but some cultures place an irrational importance on the need to bear sons. Not just to inherit wealth, but to continue the family line. Or some such. Plus, in India the woman&#039;s family pays a dowry, so presumably the son&#039;s duty is then to marry well.

I also suspect that the IVF treatment had some kind of sex selection. I mean, I&#039;m not sure, but if the rationale was to have a boy, that would make sense. I think the mother did exceedingly well to carry the twins for 8+ months.

Don&#039;t get me wrong. I&#039;m quite appalled that they&#039;ve had kids at 70+, but I also think that the babies aren&#039;t necessarily disadvantaged in an emotional and social sense if the culture or family structure is set up such that the parenting role is shared not just by the biological parents, but by an extended family or community that genuinely wants to look out for the children&#039;s interests.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>AztecLady, I don&#8217;t agree with it at all, but some cultures place an irrational importance on the need to bear sons. Not just to inherit wealth, but to continue the family line. Or some such. Plus, in India the woman&#8217;s family pays a dowry, so presumably the son&#8217;s duty is then to marry well.</p>
<p>I also suspect that the IVF treatment had some kind of sex selection. I mean, I&#8217;m not sure, but if the rationale was to have a boy, that would make sense. I think the mother did exceedingly well to carry the twins for 8+ months.</p>
<p>Don&#8217;t get me wrong. I&#8217;m quite appalled that they&#8217;ve had kids at 70+, but I also think that the babies aren&#8217;t necessarily disadvantaged in an emotional and social sense if the culture or family structure is set up such that the parenting role is shared not just by the biological parents, but by an extended family or community that genuinely wants to look out for the children&#8217;s interests.</p>
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