Comments on: AztecLady speaks: why do some people do that?

By: Coco

Coco — Wed, 04 Mar 2009 23:56:13 +0000

Are the blog/forum owners supposed to rush forth, begging the person leaving to stay (or return)? Perhaps change the community to suit the needs of that one person?

Yes. They are. At least in my experience as a forum moderator and later admin, that’s exactly what they want. I had to abandon online forums entirely for just that reason. And I didn’t post a flounce, either. Ha.

By: Anon76

Anon76 — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 19:14:46 +0000

What would be truly funny would be to have the host of the site ban the addy of the “flouncer”. “Okay, you want out, you’re out.”

No lingering deaths, just, POOF.

Bet there would be a lot less flouncing.

By: Keishon

Keishon — Tue, 03 Mar 2009 01:27:17 +0000

Well, the person who says “I won’t ever come back” again do it to obviously gain attention and sympathy. It really baffles me that the commenter would think anyone would actually care (blog owner/message board moderator, etc perhaps but probably not) Like the Nike commercial says, ‘just do it’, no need to tell the world about it. Same goes for people who blog, who decide they won’t ever blog again and they…still…blog. Nuff said. So, no, I never take such declarations seriously and no, I don’t care either. Later and it’s quite likely that I will probably come back again, too.

By: Grace

Grace — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 20:33:11 +0000

I think the flounce is just part and parcel of the Internet dynamic. I suspect we’d see a lot fewer of them if the people indulging in them sat back and thought about the reaction, or lack thereof, from others. Most often it’s either crickets chirping, a muttered “Good riddance,” or a more enthusiastic “Don’t let the door hit you in the ass going out.” All three cases imply the same response–an uncaring shrug.

By: Throwmearope

Throwmearope — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 00:36:49 +0000

I saw a (I think New Yorker) cartoon with a woman walking down the street talking into a cell phone. The tagline was something like: “I’m afraid I don’t have time for your drama today. But I can pencil you in next week.”

My 16-year-old daughter and I have been adopting this philosophy lately and it’s really been helpful.

Our drama-loving friends always seem to have something going on when we find time to get back to them. But they don’t disrupt our lives when we have a lot of stuff going on.

I take the same approach to the internet. Sometimes I dig in and enjoy the drama, other times not so much.

By: Las

Las — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 21:20:04 +0000

My favorite is when they do their “GOODBYE CRUEL BOARD!” post, and then come back less then a day later, claiming that they got so many pm’s begging them not to go that they decided to stick around.

By: Jenns

Jenns — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 21:19:29 +0000

@ Teddypig: The coffee I’m wiping from my nose and laptop
screen has your name on it! lol. Thanks for the laugh. I
needed one today.

By: West

West — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 21:03:01 +0000

I really think they want the attention. They don’t have any intention of leaving, they just want everyone to either rush forward and stop them, or for the others to start arguing about it.

I’m with Angelia- when I leave a board, I do it quietly. If I’ve been a long time member (as is the case recently with a BB I’ve been on for quite sometime), I’ll privately message the people I’m closer to, make sure I have their email addys, and let them know that I’ll be communicating through email from then on. And then I just leave.

By: Holly

Holly — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 21:00:52 +0000

You know, this is something I’ve often wondered about, too. Why do they even bother? Especially since 9/10 times they don’t really disappear forever and ever amen.

Mostly it just makes me laugh.

By: Teddypig

Teddypig — Sun, 01 Mar 2009 19:08:30 +0000

Goodbye Cruel World!

No no no no, MORE DRAMA!
Give me MORE. Make me believe it!

I want rending of clothing, running mascara and torn nylons! Go back and try again.