Comments on: Dilemma Friday: Do You Let Him Express Himself?

By: Jeanette

Jeanette — Mon, 01 Mar 2010 20:55:48 +0000

He should have been fair with her and declare his “interest” that has probably be with him from an early age HE will never shake it off, its not a fetish, or a passing fancy, but heh, as Joan Rivers Mother said “Marry a transvestite and double your wardrobe”
Rule No.1 Not in front of the children,
No.2 All housework is now totally shared
No.3 Up front and honest about everything from now on.
There are advantages about having a Tranny Husband
He knows why you take so long in the bathroom.
What you can and can’t wear (sometimes to honest)
Why you have such a collection of shoes
And so on…………
Far more fun and much better than most of the arrogant swines out there

By: Stacey

Stacey — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 03:11:52 +0000

Sorry…but there is nothing about a man dressing in panties, stockings and high heels that excites me. I would be totally turned off and I think I would loose respect for him.

By: MelindaEvette

MelindaEvette — Sun, 29 Mar 2009 05:35:45 +0000

Carl is cool with me as long as he gets his own panties and shoes. And he doesn’t look better than me!

By: Sheila

Sheila — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 07:19:07 +0000

Snort!
After ripping into him for not trusting me enough with his secret, I’d be more than willing to dress up like a man and take him out.

By: Angelia Sparrow

Angelia Sparrow — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 03:13:49 +0000

I’m with Kristie.
I saw no lying per se, just a basic closet situation. Like all closets, it got opened.

And my husband has always been able to fit in my clothes. We’re roughly the same height. I outweighed him by 15 pounds when we met. (He was a stick) So ruining my clothes isn’t an issue.

By: AztecLady

AztecLady — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 00:34:46 +0000

If he already has the fetish when they are dating, by golly yeah! tell her while they are dating. She dumps him? Well, then she honestly wasn’t the one for him.

Isn’t that what we tell women about being honest with the guys they date, instead of expecting things to magically fix themselves after the wedding?

By: KristieJ

KristieJ — Sat, 28 Mar 2009 00:15:45 +0000

AL: True – but at what point does he confess? While they are dating? (what if she dumps him?) When he proposes? (what if it causes her to say no?) On their wedding night? (I’m thinking that’s not the best time *chuckle*)
By then he’s over the big hurdles and probably thinks what she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.
And FWIW – I agree with you – it would have been ever so much easier to tell the wife rather then “SURPRISE” but then – guys can be odd – this from a woman who was married to one for over 31 years and raised two of the little dearlings.
And… (this is such a fascinating topic *g*) what type of guy is he? That might make a difference. Is he a macho, alpha type or a more sensitive, beta type. If it’s the former – then it would be harder to confess too I think.

By: AztecLady

AztecLady — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 23:00:13 +0000

Ah but Kristie, if he had come forward–instead of being caught red handed (or high heeled)–there would be much less wondering “what else is he hiding?”

It is very different to have your partner/spouse/s.o. say, “I need to talk with you, I need to tell you something” than open the bedroom door and find him cross dressing.

By: KristieJ

KristieJ — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 22:51:50 +0000

I’m different I guess in that I don’t really see it as that much of a lack of trust as I do a ‘fear on his part’ issue. Guys are more taciturn by nature I think then women – though of course I realize there are exceptions – and this is a biggy to confess to. If it’s a good marriage and by the scenario that Karen gives it is, he is probably terrified that if the spouse found out the marriage would be over. I don’t see it as lying as much as not confessing to a very unusual compulsion.

“So then, anger. He lied to me, and I’d be pissed. Rightly so. Then, depression, what have I done wrong, where have I failed him that he couldn’t trust me with this? How is it that after all these years he didn’t know me well enough to trust me.

And that’s probably the exact reason why he wouldn’t say anything.

By: Bonnie L.

Bonnie L. — Fri, 27 Mar 2009 20:44:50 +0000

Wow, this scenario more or less actually happened with my parents and it was the final tipping point that tore their marriage apart. So, for me, that would be a deal breaker, especially considering the fact that my husband was my boyfriend at that time and pretty much went through everything with me.