Comments on: Dilemma Friday: Do You Call Him Out On His Homophobia?

By: MichelleR

MichelleR — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 18:11:07 +0000

I would have to tell him since he’d need to know why we were breaking up. The operative part of this is that he seems perfect for me — the moment he says that, he’s out. Homophobia, racism, or doesn’t like animals — he needs to go.

By: Las

Las — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:56:13 +0000

Not only would I confront him, but I’d let him know that we won’t be seeing each other anymore. I have no patience for bigoted/stupid people.

By: eggs

eggs — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:15:35 +0000

I’ve been married a long time, but I seem to recall that new boyfriends are a dime a dozen. It would be easier to just dump this one’s arse and find a new one than to go through the effort of educating him.

I would tell him why he got fired tho, just in case he wants to go and educate himself and then come back when he was genuinely ‘perfect’.

By: Mary Winter

Mary Winter — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 04:09:03 +0000

He’d be shown the door and told not to let it hit him in his ass on the way out. I don’t tolerate hate. If he needs “educated” in common human decency, then I don’t want anything to do with him.

By: Fae Sutherland

Fae Sutherland — Sat, 21 Nov 2009 01:51:40 +0000

He’d be dumped immediately, and I’d definitely tell him why. I don’t dig people who hate and I certainly don’t pursue relationships with them. Period, no discussion, he’s gone.

By: Gina

Gina — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:23:56 +0000

Confront right away. Regardless of whether I had a gay sibling, it would be a deal breaker. I have dated men in the past who were uncomfortable about homosexuality because they haven’t had someone in their life who was (openly) gay. Uncomfortable is different than hateful, and I can have a conversation with him about the topic. But if it’s just ignorant spewing of inexplicable anger, then it’s over and better it be sooner than later. Intolerance isn’t a trait I want in a partner.

By: willaful

willaful — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 22:00:58 +0000

Venus’ point is well taken. I was thinking instant deal-breaker, but it might be worth taking a minute to find out if the guy could be teachable, especially if he’s pretty young. But no way in hell would I let it pass, with or without a gay sibling.

By: Chantal

Chantal — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:09:12 +0000

Well, one of my brothers is gay, and I am bisexual, so I would be really disgusted to learn that I was in a relationship with someone like that.

Homophobia is more than an ‘opinion’. It’s right up there with racism.

That dude would be out of my life FAST!

By: Amarinda Jones

Amarinda Jones — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 19:03:08 +0000

I’d be talking to him on this and sussing out what other bigotry he practices. While I believe everyone is entitled to an opinion, I could not be with someone who treats others badly.

By: AztecLady

AztecLady — Fri, 20 Nov 2009 16:58:53 +0000

This actually happened to me, many years ago before I met my beloved–and that was the end of that.

As far as I know none of my brothers is gay, but that’s not the point at all, as far as I’m concerned.