“There is no such thing as safe sex. The only safe sex is in a monogamous marriage or no sex at all”Friday, April 9, 2010
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There’s a very interesting post over at the All About Romance blog, entitled Drawing The Line.
The columnist, Jane, writes:
I’ve been thinking about Voltaire lately. Specifically, one of his most famous quotations: “I do not agree with what you have to say, but I’ll defend to the death your right to say it.”
Last Monday, my campus newspaper printed a column by a male writer. In this piece, he called feminists and gay activists “a sniveling bunch of emotional cripples,” declared that date rape is an “incoherent concept,” and essentially that drunken flirtation is consent.
Jane then goes on to describe the resulting outrage that those comments caused in InternetLand over the next few days.
For me, the fact that a male writer dared to write those things in a public forum wasn’t the thing that captured my attention the most (after all, he’s a columnist trying to get people to read his musings) no, what perked up my interest was firstly, Jane’s take on the issue:
I think the views the article espouses are uninformed, ignorant, misogynistic, and arrogant. But here’s the thing. I’m glad this article was published. I’m sorry it caused people pain and I agree there were editorial mistakes, but the potential of offending people is not grounds for censorship…But let’s consider the result of the article. People are discussing what “consent” means and whether or not drunk sex (or forced seduction) is rape.
People are coming out of the woodwork in support of rape victims and women’s rights and creating organizations that support victims of sexual violence. People are exercising their own freedom of speech by writing letters to the editor of the paper. There are plans to host a “constructive dialogue,” and students are debating censorship and the freedom of speech. Are these things bad?
She makes some interesting points, however I’m not sure that I agree with her entirely. I do think there are some things that shouldn’t be allowed to be said in public. The rape comment isn’t just merely offensive, the fact is, there are actually people out there who will read this dickhead’s opinion and take them as the gospel truth. And that’s where the danger lies. It’s all very well people coming out of the woodwork in support of rape victims, as a result of his shock-jock tactics, but what if those very dangerous comments actually leads to a girl or woman being raped? Would this man exercising his freedom of speech be seen as such a positive thing? Really?
And now onto the most interesting part of the column – this comment, (backed up by a couple of the other posters, including AAR Rachel) left me speechless:
Rachel and Nancy, I totally agree! Sex belongs in marriage. For years now young people are being taught that sex outside of marriage is okay as long as they have protection. There is an old saying, ‘A lie will make its way around the world before the truth has had a chance to put on its shoes!” How true that is. People keep drinking the Kool Aid and buying the lies. Lies that are killing people with countless STD’s!
There is no such thing as safe sex. The only safe sex is in a monogamous marriage or no sex at all. What is a life giving gift has been abused and distorted and turned into a sport. Our society criticizes young men who use steroids yet think its wonderful that young women pump their bodies with unnecessary contraceptive hormones. Fertility is not a disease to be treated, it is a gift. It is ridiculous to teach young people that they can say no to anything except their sexual urges!!!
I know, my jaw dropped too, but don’t worry, Maria had loads more to say on the matter:
Sex outside of marriage is certainly worse. Look around you at all the consecuences. Abortion (murdering innocent children-4,000 a day, shameful), rampant divorce, unnatural sexual acts and relationships becoming mainstream and accepted as natural, STD’s, sexualizing our children, pornography becoming bigger than the oil industry, etc….. Yep, seems no worse to me!! I have no compassion for women who place themselves in dangerous situations. Actions have consecuences!!
Hey, that’s not all, there was more!
And I definately do not have to support women, especially when they are wrong. If both sexes would behave virtuously what a world we would have. Oh wait, virtue is so old school and boring!! I’m proud to have an old school view and a hope filled life. For women like to experiment, just remember how many experiments backfire and actually never work out. As much as that line has been blurred with lies, women always have much more to lose than men. If they want to behave like men they should be treated like men.
Phew. So in summary, sex outside of marriage is a really bad thing, and is the reason for so many abortions, and so many divorces. Not only that, but any woman who has sex outside marriage deserves to be raped. Did I get that right?
Anyway, Maria wasn’t alone in her thinking, a reader called Nancy had this to say:
My take is this: as long as individuals believe in free sexual relations outside the contract of marriage, what is being discussed above will exist. Rules of behavior exist for a reason – unwanted consequences.
What I don’t get is how people who read romance books can have those sorts of viewpoints? Unless of course they only read inspirational romance. That would totally make sense then.
AAR Rachel’s viewpoints were just as controversial. She seemed to be shifting the blame onto the girls for putting themselves in a position to be raped in the first place:
I don’t think guys are savages. I think they respond to stimulus and girls that age are very stimulating. College age men are at the age when their sexuality is pretty overwhelming. Play with fire if you will, but acknowledge that it’s fire.
The Sarah Palin Award Nomination still goes to Maria though, her comments were just…astounding.
Edited To Add:
This was the original comment from AAR Rachel:
I agree with Alex Knepper. I am SO tired of women thinking that since the Sexual Revolution, sex is now roped off and controlled, bureaucratized, no longer subject to natural law or the lusts of man (and woman).
Men do not go to frat parties or bars during meat market rush to talk Plato and sample the culinary repast. They go to 1) get drunk and 2) get laid. Do women not know that? Come on, they have to know that. If you go to these venues scantily dressed, intend to flirt a lot, get all kinds of validating male attention, and go home on an ego high, you are a tease. You get something, they get nothing. Again, they don’t care what your thoughts on Plato are. Men accept the possibility of failure, but still it’s a set-up. They provide the booze and atmosphere, and hopefully you provide the ____.
So, yes, she totally agreed with the Dickhead’s comments, and not only that, but she thinks that wearing skimpy clothes is tantamount to asking to be raped. I look back at my younger days and remember the skimpiness of some of my clothes, and I understand this, had I been raped, it would have totally been my fault. Nice one Rachel.