Posted in: Azteclady Speaks, cranky AztecLady, rant
I’m a bit hesitant to post this because the exchange started in a different venue where I’d rather not create trouble for the moderators–especially since technically I’m still one of them.
So, if I may, let’s keep whatever discussion ensues over here, please. With that said…
This is what happened: remember how I posted that I’m in love with this video? Well, there’s a thread in the music area of that other forum devoted to all things Adele. Obviously I had to share the love, right? So far so good. Some people comment that they don’t get the video, blah blah and then this guy says that the video doesn’t make sense because (and I quote):
I dont get the video. the guys got a hot girl and leaves for college only to become bisexual and mess around in bed with another guy and I’m supposed to be moved ?
if your last lover was female.. finding a new man is nothing like finding “someone like you”
The guy went from a hottie to a man butt, that is NOTHING like “someone like you” if that YOU is female. PERIOD.
I dont hate gays, but the video doesn’t make sense.
it would have made wayyyyyyy more sense, if he had been gay at first, then found another butt to plug at college.
I just can’t stand it these days, throw a gay guy in there and you’ve got a “hit” simply because you’ve addressed the issue.
and, to top it all,
no way, see that would be an AWESOME video. I love all races and even gays, I just do not see the logic in the video. maybe its just me. I apologize. I can see how a guy would go from a white girl to a black girl, I’ve done it.
Seriously? I mean, really?
There are so many things wrong with those comments I hardly know where to start.
Find a butt to plug?
Throw a gay in to address the issue?
But hey, he loves all races and the gays, dontcha see. He’s even gone from a white girl to a black one, that’s just how open minded he is.
Gotta love the intrawebs–every asshole gets to spew his ignorance for everyone else to see.
My reply over there was very, very brief–otherwise I would probably gotten myself banned forever more:
If a person is nothing more than plumbing, then yeah, of course a man cannot be like a female.
If a person is a heart, a mind, compassion, understanding, generosity, and so much more…then your argument is insulting and homophobic.
Once I calmed down a bit I realized I phrased it poorly, and betrayed my own ignorance and biases, because the imbecile’s comments are not so much homophobic as they are bisexual-phobic–or rather, alternative sexuality/gender-phobic. There’s so much going on with the people we interact every day that we are not aware of, much more than what we are used to consider and think about.
A challenge to help us increase awareness, acceptance and support for the trans*, intersex, intergender and questioning people in the m/m romance and broader community.