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Why Black Men Prefer To Date White Women Over Black Women...Apparently

According to the video below, this is why some black men prefer to date white women over black women. The list is….interesting, shall we say.

Here’s their list:

1. Attitude – (Angry black woman)

2. Materialistic – (apparently black girls determine a guy’s character by their appearance and the clothes they wear)

3. Easier to approach (White girls are less guarded)

4. Family more welcoming (White girls families don’t ask twenty questions about what they do for a job etc when they meet the black guys)

5. Less controlling

6. More faithful

7. Narrow-minded

8. Complaining

9. Less room for error – (I guess this means black women are less forgiving)

10. Always assuming the worst

That list right there, compiled by the black guys in the video is exactly the reason why black women should really open themselves up to dating outside their race.

I’ve heard the ‘black angry woman’ tag more often than I care to. Whenever black men are asked why they date anybody other than women of their own race, the majority of them give this as their number one reason.

I call bullshit of course. I’m pretty sure that most guys who date white women do so because they probably find them more attractive, but for some reason, they seem afraid to just say that. Instead, they endorse the idea of the materialistic, shallow, narrow-minded, angry black woman. It’s a label that black women everywhere have really struggled to overcome.

I like what this woman had to say about black men’s excuses for not dating black women:

Anyway, what do you guys think of the list? Don’t be shy, I wont judge.

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  • M
    April 22
    3:41 pm

    Erica, you need to read my previous comments. After my divorce in 1990 until 2011 when I married my wife. I went on a search throughout the country from Boston to Los Angeles, searching for another black woman to be my queen. In that search I was turned down 3,583 times. Yes at that time I’ll be the first to agree with you. All men are about the physical looks of a woman. And that was me. I searched in churches, bookstores, libraries, colleges, museums, shopping malls, the beach and even clubs and on the internet. Erica, but soon as I stopped and started searching with my heart. God introduced me to my wife. It’s not about the color of a person’s skin. Erica, yes I wear being turned down that many times like a badge of honor because each and everyone of those women taught me something. And those experiences is what brought me to my wife. I figured it out. That’s why I stopped and put in God’s hands. All people should do this, but they don’t. Erica, you’re going to have to figure things out better. I’m not going to tell you what you’re doing wrong because I’m not you. All I can say is, God gave each and everyone one of us something special in our lives. And it’s up to us to find out what it is. And soon as you do. The right person will come you’re way. God knows when you’re ready. When that person comes you’re way, you can’t say no. There’s no choosing skin color when it happens. There are alot of people the world over who had a chance at love, but turned it down because there mind’s and heart’ s weren’t in the right place. Now they’re saying what if I had given that person a chance and left out the color of the skin part. Erica, alot of people will never see the forest through the trees until it’s to late. Remember you can lead a horse to the edge of a cliff but you can’t make him or her jump. Erica, and most of all stop being someone that you’re not. And you’ll see the whole picture more clearer.

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  • M
    April 22
    5:11 pm

    Erica, one more thing God didn’t kill his people for interacting with other race’s. Mankind did that. Now I can see why you’re a lost soul. You have alot of learning to do. The more that you carry that chip on you’re shoulder and attitude. You will never find the right man that will come into you’re daughter’s and your life. Erica look in the mirror. What do you see. I see a woman that has been used, abused, hurt, and taken advantage of. You let those so called men treat you that way. You’re the one who wanted the bad boy and looked the other way when a good guy came calling. Now that you’re getting older and tired of the what they were putting you through. You wised up a little. You blame everything on the guy’s you were with. Well guess what, you had something to do with it also. Remember it takes two. Now you have a daughter and want a decent man to come into you’re daughter’s and your life. God put you in that position that you’re in for a reason. So that you can learn from you’re mistakes. It’s up to you to figure out what you did wrong and how you’re going to change and do things differently. Erica, remember you chose to be with those guys not him. You’re like the typical women all over the world. When young you want to get out and experience what life has to offer and go out and date and sleep with all the wrong guy’s. And after and you started getting older, with someone else child you want to settle down with a good man. Any decent man who has any, Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Character, Love for themselves will see right through you. Especially with the blond hair. Erica what’s wrong with the hair that God gave you.
    Grow up.

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  • I just listen to the whole video clip of the first young lady for the first time. And I believe she has a very good point. One thing I must say, that the family values are essential! I do believe that after the 400 years of slavery it is clear why there is so much confusion amongst us! In the mean time I have been hit on by 10 white women and one sister! I don’t want to jump ship, but these white girls don’t even know me and they want to give me the world! But I haven’t given up on my black women, but they will shut you down real quick like! Even Erica has given a cold shoulder! Hey M thats 1 and counting!

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  • M
    April 23
    1:53 am

    Erica, excuse me what I met to say was, God doesn’t kill his people.Mankind does that. This site wouldn’t be here if people opened up their eyes. It amazes me how people’s minds and hearts are in the wrong place. Stops letting others cloud you’re mind. Open up you’re heart to a new beginning, and stop playing childish games. Erica remember you have a daughter to think about.
    Take care,
    God bless.

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  • EOL
    April 26
    6:16 pm

    Get in where you fit in 🙂 I have Been EOL ( equal opportunity lover) all my life and enjoy all women of all races whom I find myself mentally and physically attracted to. Race only exist in the mind as the world is truly becoming more diverse everyday anyway. I love it all because in the end you and I are always going to be Human regardless of the hues of our skin. Not to mention a more diverse gene pool can actually improve the human chance for greater survival benefits because if your tree don’t fork it will eventually die….

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  • M
    April 28
    8:57 pm

    Be true and love yourself first is the only way that anyone is going to find true love. And I’m not talking about lusting. In any relationship in all walks of life. You have to be able to trust, communicate, listen and put God first in all of the decisions that you make, along with also being a one man- woman or a one woman- man. Without having Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Character, you’re always going to have people that will not use their brains, hearts the way God intended for them. You can read all the books in the libraries or reads all of the blogs that you want on this subject or any other subject for that matter pertaining to why people love the way that they do. And it will always come back to the beginning. Why do you love me. Is it because how I carry myself, what kind of car, house, job that I have. Or is it, I fell in love with you for the way that you treat me. It can be anything. But first you have to put you’re heart in it. Without using you’re heart first, you’ll never be able to see the true beauty that’s inside of a person’s soul. This is the far most best answer anybody will ever get.

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  • M, you said it!! It does takes TWO. That was your wisdom statement to Erica. So what part did you have in the 3,000 PLUS that turned you down!! It is a creative excuse, but I’ll bet you ended up with a WHITE woman when you finally figured it all out!! Come on BLACK MEN, give us your BEST SHOT!!

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  • M
    April 30
    3:45 pm

    Jane Doe, thank you for your comment. Yes I figured it out. And if you had been reading my comments. You would have found the answer. If not I’m not going to tell you.
    Take care,
    God bless.

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  • M
    April 30
    6:14 pm

    Jane Doe and the rest of the black women who are reading this blog. Women of all races are out playing games when it comes to attracting a man. Its up to every individual man to do whatever he think is best and don’t let you use manipulation. If he has Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Character, Love for yourself first. He will be able to see right through you.. You say that you want a good man, but as soon as one comes into you’re life you don’t know how to treat him. Due to the fact when you were young you wanted to get out and experience what life had to offer. And after getting older from being used, abused, cheated on, received diseases, and having someone else’s children from being in a relationships single, divorce. You now want a good man. Well guess what. You should have thought about it before. Black women are the most single women in the world that are not married. Why because they’re out for themselves and careless about the man. Other races of women at least give the men a chance to prove themselves. You shut him down before he opens his mouth without knowing anything about him. Real men want to be who they are, good men. And don’t want to be playing games. He can have a college degree or not, drive a average car, live in a average house or apartment, wear regular clothes. And I’m not talking about wearing his pants down to past his behind either. But soon as he comes up and say hi, the first thing you do is size him up. And turn you’re nose up to him. Now remember this happens in all races and not just the black race. But black women do it the most out of them all. I’ve been there 3,583 times. Yes it take 2 to make a relationship, marriage work with, Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Character, Love for oneself and each other to go along with trust, communication, listening and putting God first in everything that you do. But how can God fearing men do that when women want to take him for granted.
    “COME ON BLACK WOMEN, TIME TO DEFEND YOURSELF”

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  • M
    April 30
    9:38 pm

    Jane Doe, and all the other black women out their reading this blog. You’re getting dropped. That’s why alot of God Fearing Black Men Are Out Dating and Marring White Women. Because they’re getting tired of you’re games. Get rid of the attitude and take the chip off you’re shoulders and they just might let you get back in the ring. And if not prepared to get “KNOCKED OUT TOTALLY”

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  • @M wrote:

    Jane Doe, and all the other black women out their reading this blog. You’re getting dropped. That’s why alot of God Fearing Black Men Are Out Dating and Marring White Women. Because they’re getting tired of you’re games. Get rid of the attitude and take the chip off you’re shoulders and they just might let you get back in the ring. And if not prepared to get “KNOCKED OUT TOTALLY”

    Well don’t you think an awful lot of yourself dearie?

    I’m a black woman who is married to a bi-racial man, but let me tell you, if I was single, I’d be dating the people who often ask me out. Those people are normally white men. They appreciate my beauty, my wit, my charm, my ability to articulate my thoughts, my loyalty, and my friendship.

    If in order to win the sacred black man’s approval I have to change who I am just so that he can find me palatable or worthy, well, let’s put it this way, I’d be swirling until the cows came home. What people like you need to understand M, is that as an educated black woman I and many other black women have a choice with regards to who we date. I would never in a million years stay at home twisting and worrying because the black men around me were blind to my charms. No Siree. White men are datable, and there’s no way I’d limit myself to the quintessential “black brother” like I was waiting for the holy grail or something.

    The privilege and the patriarchy that black men seem to feel they have over the black woman is sickening to be honest, and pretty soon, men like those in the above Youtube vid will find that all of a sudden, these women they considered theirs, yet did not want, will be tossing them over for men from different racial backgrounds, and bidding them sayonara.

    So M, threaten the black woman as much as you want, and try to tell us that if we don’t put up and shut up, you’ll leave us all unmarried spinsters, but let me tell you something, ratio-wise, more white men are marrying their black womenfolk, than black man are marrying their black women. They’re willing to marry us even if you guys aren’t, so you take your internalised misogyny and shove it where the sun doesn’t shine.

    By the way, I love how mad black men get when they hear of beautiful ladies like Kerry Washington, Paula Patton et al choosing to date/marry white men. Love. It. As the world spins and some of those ladies who are desperately holding out for their ‘strong black brothers’ finally come to their senses, the number of BW/WM relationships will only increase. You need to understand that this is inevitable. It’s far easier to love somebody who loves you back, than someone who doesn’t think you’re worth anything.

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  • Jay
    May 2
    2:18 am

    Jane Doe,,I am happy for u finding luv???? , but I fill M is not hating on Black Women, and doesn’t sound uneducated! As matter of fact the man sounds like he wants black women to take notice of their own inner beauty, and not to apply anger and attitude as the first option ! I fill the anger and slighting of deception creeping into your words! Black men are not running away , they are being rejected for many reasons! Some are legit reasons! But M is an respectable human being , who is just aware of problematic social behavior , like many people have ! The fear of loosing black women to white men should not be an issue, because most black men are not ill willed of the Black women’s love of white men ! There is no hate ,or very little, because it has always been far more acceptable in black communities! Where the problem arise is when either grows self hatred of same race, opposite sex …..allowing inneracial hippcracy to creep in ! If you can or give the same respect to both black and white men then there is no problem! But if you allow yourself to give into the white man God complex, or adore white men second to God, then may God have mercy! I hear from M ……respect yourself and find love where ever you can! He has gone to combat with females who are aggressively against his choice! I don’t believe he has the same thought patterns as the young men in the video! Men and women love to be respected no matter what race! You hit a little bit indirectly about the sex appeal of black men! Most black men never brag about penis size and stereotypes ! In my opinion that is mostly myth! It is white women who tell or gosip about such things! It’s mostly in the genes when it comes to that! Most black would not really be concerned about black women who would out do Jezebel to swirl white penis at a drop of hat! That is not in no ones control but those who dare to engage in that behavior! I support black women who find love and can be happy! And if white men do that for you, great! So don’t hate on guys like M for doing the same! Personally I ‘ve never dated outside my race! You got me thinking about it! I could be missing something! Who knows? That doesn’t mean I will disrespect black women or treat them any less then who they are, or who they could possibly be! Happiness has no barriers !

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  • M
    May 2
    3:24 am

    Jay, thank thank you for the comment. Karen, you have me all wrong. I love my black sisters very much but was not able to show them how much. Because I wasn’t given the chance. Please go back and read all of my comments and you will see that. I’m happy now that I found love and wouldn’t change a thing because my wife is letting me be me. A God fearing good black bi-racial man. That loves her with all of my mind, body, heart, soul. I didn’t get that chance with a black woman because she didn’t want to take the time to get to know me. All 3,583 black women sized me up and turned me down. And all for the same reason. I didn’t have the right clothes, job, house, car, swagger that they were looking for. But I kept trying until I had enough and gave it to God, who introduced me to my wife. I really wanted to marry a black woman but wasn’t given the chance. Now that I’m married and out with my wife. The black women that we see can’t keep their eyes off me. What’s that all about. My wife says don’t worry about it. Their loss my gain. Karen remember I really, really tried. I should be in the record books for trying so hard to find a black God fearing woman to love me for me. But I wasn’t able to. I tried from 1990 until 2011, when God introduced me to my wife. Karen I’m happy that you found love. We both found someone who loves us, for the people that we are. Take care my black sister. I still love all of you, but not the way that I love my wife.
    God bless.

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  • @M – I hope you don’t mind me saying so, but it sounds to me like you were trying to chase the wrong type of woman. A lot of men don’t like to admit it, but often times they go for women who are out of their league, and more often than not, they get rejected. In my country this is known as punching above your weight and it sounds like this is what you were doing with these women who kept rejecting you. People – men especially – don’t like admitting that perhaps only a handful of women will ever find them attractive, and those women might not necessarily be the type that they desire. Sometimes it’s about finding your level, rather than trying to attain the impossible.

    Don’t get me wrong, this is not an indictment on your looks, social status or anything else, however, you may have been targeting women who had a specific set of requirements for their life partners, and it just happened that you didn’t happen to meet those requirements.

    Also, can I say, I find it very disturbing that you claim to have tried and tried to date black women, as if you felt it was your duty to meld with your own kind no matter what. I find this thought process disturbing on so many levels, and it is right up there with black women who’d rather date black men who are thugs (or in some cases gay – looking at you Starr Jones) than a decent heterosexual white guy, because they are so concerned about the optics. Black people are so obsessed with race, racism etc, but the fact is, sometimes we are our own worst enemy. If all black people just let themselves love who they wanted to love – colour be damned – interracial relationships wouldn’t be such a hot-button issue for us.

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  • Karen, I hear your comments to M, but don’t you think it is obvious that this 3,200 plus women were TAGs on the internet. M, perhaps contacted them saying “HI, how are you”? or something similar, and then waited for the BLACK women to make HIM an offer! There is no other logical way one could have counted that many contacts unless it was tracked by computer. It was a Dating Website, no doubt! I am told by MANY Black women that this is the way men relate now. They see women who are beautiful and prosperous and hit on her (saying NOTHING of any substance), and then sit back waiting, not realizing that SHE is the one who wants to be pursued. Someone needs to read Steve Harvey’s books and find out what a REAL man is! He says that He should be proving himself to HER, and not the other way around. Un-influential men want women to come with the purses in one hand the their dr..ws in the other!! It’s not happening with Black women. Apparently, a lot of these men do not realize this! Times may haved changed, but NATURE has not!!! Some women think they can handle a relationship where the man has nothing to bring to the table, but about two months into it, they find him stomach-turning. We were not cut out to have the babies and feed them too. However, many WONDERFUL Black women have managed to do both out of neccessity because the SORRY fathers were nowhere in sight! Yet, people like M have the nerve to be against Black Women, claiming that it is a NEW DAY!! DON’T MAKE US LAUGH!!!

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  • M
    May 2
    4:18 pm

    Karen and Jane Doe, thank you for both of you’re comments. I do not know how both of you were raised. My parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles raised me and my brother’s and sister saying that nobody is out of you’re league. It doesn’t matter if you have a college degree or not. Its how you present yourself to them. You can have all of the book/ street smarts all that you want but if you don’t have love for yourself first how are you going to find love. Everyone has excuses for everything Karen and Jane. I read all of you’re comments. Now when a man come on this blog and tells it like it is. You find fault and say that its the men’s problem and not the women’s. Well guess what it take 2 to make a relationship work. Nobody is beneath anybody. As my grandfather use to say. Its just an excuse. In God’s eyes everyone is the same. The social, financial status level that people put themselves on is just a lot of bull. We all bleed the same color “RED”. So don’t give me that excuse. People the world over think by saying you’re beneath me are the one’s that are not finding love when it comes their way, due to the fact don’t know what it is. Love doesn’t have a color tag on it. Money can’t buy it either. Money is a man made thing to separate people. But at the end of the day when you’re home alone without anyone, money can’t help you. That’s if you want “REAL LOVE”. If you don’t want it then that’s something else. Look at the divorce rate around the world. The generation that we live in today is different then it was 20, 40, 60 years ago. Their are more 1 parent homes them 2 parent homes today. People have forgotten how to love nowadays and want to use people for their own benefits. They listen and do what others tell them. Having bad role models also plays a big part in it. But remember one thing, it all comes from how and where you were raised. Children watch what their parents do, so if they see it, they think that’s the way they’re suppose to act. Now that can be a good or bad depending on the situations. Men and Women can go out and see someone that they like and go up to them and introduce themselves it doesn’t matter if its at a Church, Bookstore, Library, College, Museum, Shopping Mall, The Beach, Night Club or even the internet etc. And will get sized up before opening their mouth. Black, White, Yellow, know matter what you’re skin color is. If you aren’t someone that’s appealing to them you get the shaft. Women are just as visual as men. My wife continues to tell me that she didn’t marry me for money, she married me because she fell in love with me. And how I treated her. And it didn’t have anything to do with the color of our skin. The world has changed a great deal since mankind was living in caves and the wilderness. But one thing should never change and that’s finding “LOVE”. Know matter what the color of you’re skin is.
    God bless.

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  • M, you make some good points, but miss others as well. If having education, prosperity etc., had no real value and did not influence relationships, then why in the world would someone aspire to this? White men seem to know that a HAPPY WIFE MAKES A HAPPY LIFE. Why not just play life by ear and see how it goes? I can bet you anything that it’s mostly BLACK MEN who have this attitude about it not mattering what someone has achieved and that LOVE conquers all. I also notice that you just reference small parts of a previous blog and go on to stress your view, leaving out very IMPORTANT statements like a Man having nothing to bring to the table. Bills having to be paid, or do these things not matter to you. A life-style has to be created for a family with their needs being meet. Address some of these issues and stop talking about LOVE,LOVE,LOVE!!

    LOVE is as LOVE does. If my babies could not eat because I had a man who could not feed them, LOVE would walk out the door with a LITTE ASSISTANCE!! Again, LOVE IS AS LOVE DOES!!

    And, admit that it was a web-site that you met these women on, and you failed to do the Steve Harvey thing, another conveniently left out response!! Or, just maybe, with the changing of times that you keep referencing, bills have gone away, and babies don’t need to be fed. They did 20, 30 and 40 years ago and they do NOW. You were not here as long ago as you refer to….so why do you insist that life is so different now?

    I respect your parents for what they taught you about relationships, but they were speaking in FAITH. We know that the way WHITE people treat OBAMA that NOTHING has changed, not even a LITTLE bit. It takes us back even before the 60s when they seiged the dogs and fire hoses on us. But never-the-less, sleeping with the ENEMY is the way to go. Have you ever hear this adage…THE HAND THAT ROCKS THE CRADLE RULES THE WORLD?? Who rocked the Obama hater’s cradles.

    Now, when you answer this blog, address the issues put before you!! LET’S SEE HOW IT FLIES!! LOVE YA.

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  • M
    May 2
    9:41 pm

    Jane Doe, thank you for your comment. I do not have to mention what you have all ready said. Remember you can lead a horse to the edge of a cliff but you can not make him or her jump. Alot of the things you mentioned do not pertain to me. So why should I get involved in it. My comments are going to stand for what is going on. I see that you want to keep adding fuel to the fire, and I can see right through what your doing. Theirs never else for me to say on this subject. “TO ALL OF MY BLACK SISTERS I STILL LOVE YOU”.
    God bless.

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  • What a COP-OUT!! What fire? You just avoided all the pertinent issues again!! I am not trying to be personal on what I am saying, but rather am trying to help the male/female relationships for all concerned!! That is why I mentioned Steve Harvey a few times, and oh, yes..Obama too. Please try to say something to help your Brothers and Sisters, because you are one of the few who just addresses yourself instead of the on-going problem. Most of the others are speaking in general and not specifics. You are being referenced by all because you seem to have so much to say on the subject and your personal problems. As I told you in the beginning, I am old enough to be a great-grandmother and am trying to pass on some wisdom, which I may reframe from doing in the future, especially when it is falling on deaf ears!!

    BLACK WOMEN have a situation whereby BLACK MEN are leap-frogging over them, but addressing concerns is adding fuel to the fire, you say. Then, what are these women suppose to do! Just shut up and let YOU give your opinions all day??

    I THINK NOT!!!

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  • M
    May 3
    3:36 am

    Jane Doe, thank you for your comment. I’m not going to blog back and forth on this subject with you. Steve Harvey is a comedian and a joke for God sake. And if you have to pick up a book to read about what ” THAT LOUD MOUTH IS SAYING” that’s on you and everybody else. Remember God gave everyone is gift and its called “FREE WILL”. Some people use it and some do not. Jane Doe, In my struggle to find my wife I had to get rejected 3,583 times before I figured it out. Now that I have what I want, I’m not going to share it with you or anybody else for that matter. People are going to have to want to do what’s right on their own. And listening to me and you to help them will not change a thing. You of all people should know that. In closing I want to thank everyone for reading my comments.
    Take care all,
    God bless.

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  • Anon76
    May 4
    7:43 am

    Wow, I have followed this thread from the beginning and again all I can say is Wow.

    First off, I’m a white woman so probably shouldn’t be putting in my two cents. But when has that ever stopped me?

    Secondly, this beating a dead horse thing about 3,583 women rejecting M. Seriously, that’s one rejection a day for slightly over 10 years. And this started in 1990, so if instead we stretch that number to 2013, it’s still on average a rejection every two to three days.

    Also, I don’t buy for a second the claim that black men are understanding of black women dating white men. The majority are no more understanding of that than white men are of a white woman dating a black man. (And, honestly, women aren’t exempt from this issue.) Prejudice is still rampant in this world.

    To lay blame at the feet of a whole race of women for not wanting a man they are not attracted to in any way, shape or form is beyond stupid. I’d use the term “ignorant” but that doesn’t fit here.

    The underlying problem for women of all races is that some men believe if we don’t “hop to” and make their lives all perfect both in bed and out, then we have nothing of value. Sorry, that was the 50’s and even then life wasn’t Happy Days.

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  • jay
    May 4
    10:54 am

    Anon! Thanks for your views on this matter! Prejudice is prevalent ! That is the way of the world! Nothing is not stopping us from change but ourselves! Good hearing it from a different prospective! Unfortunately, women are still considered as till rather then human beings! Many men want to be the play boy, but today it is matched by the females just as well .So when a person makes a choice to be with another for life…know that is sacred! Opposites do attract, and couriosity is the culprit in many cases! I have siblings who have interacial relationships that have produced bi-racial children and I can’t tell the difference of black or white love! Plus my son is marrying a caucasian female in a few days! Even tho most of the black females in my family involved with interacial relationships have ended in divorce or seperation, the reason is difficult to finger! I am happy for my son of course, but his reasons or choice is out of love! I must be honest and say my son had lots of difficulty dealing with women of color! He use to say they were very high spirited, far more challenging then most caucasian women ! Don’t know if there is rock solid prof of that, but in his case, it was so! Still, we cant say this is how all black women are . I am happy for him. One thing I want to make clear is that it very apparent the black community is still suffering from the after-shock of the (EOS) syndrom ….. effects of slavery! But life is slowly evolving away from its lynching of a people! Should we turn away and blackout truths? It is an difficult choice .I hear it comming from Jane Doe , but I understand her point of view , just as much of others who have shared their views. I have to say, when harm, or injury is administered in any relations , it’s wave of destruction is felt and acknowledge by many. All of the mixed views on this site is prof of that! There are no quick fixes to this matter, or on and off switches that leave us in the light or darkness! The responsible party of this social injury ( racism) is long dead. So it’s up to us (the living) as individuals to respect a persons choice, and mind our own buisness before we dabble in someone else’s!

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  • M
    May 4
    9:38 pm

    Anon76 and Jay, both of you’re comments are well taken. I for one like it when I see interracial couples, it shows they do not care what people think. And the people that stare at them (my wife and I included) are the ones being left behind. The slavery that went on 4 plus centuries ago made it possible to pave the way for interracial couples to come out and show people that they have gotten past that. Having “FREE WILL” to make the right choices in ones life is what God intended for everyone of us. But alot of people do not care to use one of the greatest gifts that God has bestowed on humanity. If mankind can get past this racial barrier, we as a people will not being judging each other based on their race but on the content of their character. I would really like to see this happen before I leave this earth. But if humanity does not get over their personal problems that they have within their own race, and learn how to face them head on, then all of what happened would have been in vain. People in all races have given their lives to make things better for all humanity. And soon as we as a people start opening up our eyes and see the “TRUE BEAUTY, FREEDOM THAT WE ALL HAVE” then the world will be a better place to live. In my travels across this country, east to west. It has shown me how humanity is still living in the past. People think that by sweeping it under the carpet as my grandmother would say, that it would be forgotten. But its still their. I see it in people’s eyes, actions. They try hard to hide it but cannot. Because it has been passed down from the parents to their children. Then you have the parents like my wife’s and mine who let us make our own decisions. How is anyone going to learn right from wrong if they don’t learn from their mistakes. The choices that we make in life is God’s way of showing us how great we are as a people if we can not learn from them, and use it to better mankind know matter what the color of our skin is. Having proper upbringing and God in you’re life is the best way to live in this day and age and future. But first everyone has to start loving themselves first.
    “With confidence comes knowing that everybody won’t see you the way you see yourself”.
    God bless.

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  • jay
    May 5
    10:22 pm

    Anon! Thank you for sharing your view! I agree with seeing people of every nationality world wide inner marrying, and having relation, it allows us to believe we are all from the universal human family! Tho I am fine with that, I still see a community that cant produce its own food, money, automobile, banks, or normal worldly goods, contributions to science, etc! At one time we were in control of the above! So it is very problematic even being productive on a daily manner (normal human activity)! So I can see both sides of this issue, but more black women are dating white men (running away) from serious huge community problem! The same for the black males! Its a wonder we can get along this well! We all are such beautiful creatures of the universe and should never be suspended or cut off from what life has to offer according to our outer appearances ! It is obvious this sounds like an flower child explication, but love holds all things together, be it firmament, or spirit!

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  • M
    May 7
    5:33 pm

    Jay, that was a good comment but if love holds all things together be it firmament or spirit. Then why do people act the way that they do and treat each other the way that they do when a decent man or woman comes into their life. Men and women use and abuse each other to get whatever they can. And when they get all they can get.They move on to the next person forgetting all that happened. Then people wonder why the world is the way that it is. We as a people should use what happened as a learning experience and never let it happen again. I finally woke up through all that I been through. And happy to finally have found and married the woman that I was met to be with. Status in the world can not help you when you’re trying to find true love. It only makes it worse. It only works when 2 people really want to get to know each other. Putting God first in everything you do, along with having HONOR, RESPECT, DIGNITY, INTEGRITY, VALUES, MORALS, CHARACTER, TRUST, COMMUNICATION, LISTENING, LOVE FOR ONESELF, first. If people had this everything else would fall in place and their would be less divorces and more marriages. Then we would not be here talking about,
    “WHY BLACK MEN PERFER TO DATE WHITE WOMEN OVER BLACK WOMEN”.

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  • Florida
    May 9
    12:02 pm

    Why do you people believe all of this? what’s the matter with you? You know black women don’t all act like this! My friend and I are black and we are the total opposite of everything this article stated.

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  • M
    May 9
    2:19 pm

    Florida, I am very happy to hear that you and your friend are the total opposite of what going on in America and around the world. Please both of you stay true and love yourselves first. And don’t let anyone cloud you’re minds. Put God first in you’re life. By doing this both of you will find true love when the time is right. And will not be judged by your skin color, but by the content of your character. Don’t rush into anything with a blind eye and aways carry yourself with Love, Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals and have good Character like a real woman should. And here is a poem for your friend and you Florida that I wrote for the both of you.
    LOVE IS A HAND,
    HELD FAST IN YOUR OWN.
    LOVE IS A KISS,
    THE SWEETEST YOU’VE KNOWN.
    LOVE IS A JOY,
    YOU FEEL FROM THE START.
    LOVE IS A DREAM,
    YOU KEEP IN YOUR HEART,
    LOVE IS A WORLD,
    THAT’S PEOPLED BY TWO.
    LOVE IS WONDERFUL,
    LOVE IS YOU!
    Take care,
    God bless.

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  • Toni
    June 4
    6:50 pm

    M,

    Please stop stalking this thread to tell everyone about your 3,583 rejections. It’s pathetic. Anyone who knows how to work comments on a blog can go up and read what you’ve posted on about 50 different occasions. Really, we’re all glad that you’ve found happiness with your white wife. She sounds like a Real Doll, but we don’t need a hundred posts about the same thing.

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  • Toni
    June 5
    8:06 pm

    I have neither an attitude nor a chip on my shoulder, and I’m not mad at you for finding happiness with a white woman. I’m slightly annoyed that you’ve taken over this thread to say the same thing ad infinitum.

    People have tried to tell you nicely that you’ve repeated yourself over and over again, but to no avail. Most have given up and not returned, as I shortly will.

    Your intimation that I’m materialistic makes me laugh because I’m the exact opposite. My car is a ’96 that my husband keeps running for me (his is a ’91). I drive it proudly because it’s 100% paid for. Labels, money, etc. have never been the measure of the man or woman for me.

    Perhaps your automatic assumption that anyone who finds you less than pleasing is materialistic, has an attitude, or is angry is the reason you had thousands of rejections from women.

    As for your suggestion that I’ve been used and abused, nothing is further from the truth. I’ve been married for almost two decades to a man who adores me, stimulates me, and knows me better than anyone else in the world. His mother is white, so if it weren’t for interracial marriage, I wouldn’t have him. He was raised by a black man who taught him how to appreciate and respect ALL women, and for this I shall be eternally grateful to my father-in-law.

    I have no problem at all with black men who fall in love with white, Asian, Latino, etc. women. I do find myself annoyed with black men who attribute myriad negative qualities to every black woman without ever acknowledging their own shortcomings. However, I am saved from being embittered by the realization that, if I were single, these are never men I’d have given the time of day to anyway. Therefore, your wife is welcome to you with my compliments.

    I challenge you to go back and read all your comments on this thread and determine whether or not you are repeating yourself over and over again. Why don’t you save commenting for when you have something new to add?

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  • Toni
    June 5
    9:31 pm

    I’m here because I visit this website all the time because I’m a romance reader, I like Karen’s sometimes caustic wit, and I read the book reviews that are posted here. I saw this thread when it was first posted in 2012. You’ve been posting on this one thread for months, and I guess I’ve just been annoyed by the repetitive nature of your comments. BTW, recent comments are posted on the homepage, and my curiosity often gets the better of me when I see this old thread come up time and time again with you as the main commenter. I’ll have to try to avoid doing that in the future.

    Thank you for your well wishes. You’ll be happy to know I have a very satisfying life. Good bye.

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  • Very few things are as annoying as the passive-aggressive “God bless” at the end of a comment that contains the phrase “please get a life.”

    Perhaps you could also go get a life, M–preferably somewhere else.

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  • Sweetie, darling, sweet thing…fuck off already.

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  • *gagging*

    Sweets, you need a life and another hobby. Bye.

    edited to add: Much better!

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  • Okay, all of us here are officially DONE with M. Buh bye, feel free to let the door hit your ass on the way out.

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  • Here’s my reasons why Black Men Prefer To Date White Women Over Black Women.
    1. Black Women do not appreciate being loved and catered too! They have been around so many Bad Black Men , that they do not know how to accept it when it comes their way. At times a Black Woman can get spoiled and do not know how to return the catering, which can make a Black Man feel unappreciated.
    2. The Sex is just not good enough for them! Black Women constantly are either thinking about what they want in the bedroom, what they use to have when that Old Dude use to put it down , & are not willing to try New Things. Black Women can lose interest quick or get bored with the sex, and they can draw away or seem distant during intimate times.
    3. Black Women support their own futures but not their Man’s Futures. A Black Woman may leave a man to pursue their dreams, goals, aspirations. And leave him in his dreams. That dreams may not directly involve her, take focus away from her, or take too long for him to accomplish in their eyes of the Black Women & she doesn’t want to wait around for them to come to fruition.
    4. Black Women do not want to Deal with the Child Support & Child Raising Situation that Black Men come with. Black Women would love a Black Man to Support her and her kids, but is not all the times interested in assisting a Black Man with making sure he is supporting and taking care of his kids.
    5. Black Women want to be in control of Everything! Whether it’s Finances, The Home, Future Dreams and Goals, etc. Black Women who have been independent for a long time may have issues in allowing a man to handle some relationship things and in discussing financial situations along with the Black Man. Black Women may want control of finances and do not have the credit or make the money to be truly involved in financial decisions. This may lead her to continue to make the same bad financial decisions, which makes it hard for a Black Man to trust her in those areas. You can see a Woman’s Financial path between 2 things: Her closet & Where that closet is!
    6. Black Women can be jealous and non-trusting for no reasons! Sometimes the feelings of past hurt & insecurities can make a Black Woman always question a man’s intentions, even when the Black Man is 100% faithful.
    7. Black Women want to make an excuse for their faults and shortcomings and expect a Black Man to be understanding in their situations. But may not be willing to deal with a man’s issues and insecurities as they are trying to deal with their situations.
    8. Black Women’s Attitude, Mouth, Cursing can be a turn off to a man. Raising Cain, Talking Down to a Black Man, & holding a Black Man in everything just to hold him up in his faults an guilt, even if she is wrong, can push a Black Man away from wanting to share and connect deeply with a Black Woman.
    9. Black Women assume alot about every Black Man because of what she has went through with other Black Men! You Black Men are all the same! This pushes Black Men away because Black Men already feel judged & labeled from the beginning. A Black Man does not want to feel guilty from the beginning of a relationship or asked a million questions about, and what they really want from the first day.
    10. Black Women do not accept help, catering, or chivalry from a Black Man very well. The thought of a Black Man is only trying to do these helping things scares a Black Woman into thinking that a Black Man may just be trying to get close to her & leave her after she falls in love, or are just doing it for certain reasons.

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  • @Xavier: “Black Women assume alot about every Black Man because of what she has went through with other Black Men! You Black Men are all the same! ”

    Coming at the end of a long list of generalizations about Black Women (and Black Men) this struck me as hilarious. Perhaps the whole post was intended as parody?

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  • Anon76
    June 9
    9:00 pm

    I have hopes it’s a parody, but somehow don’t think so.

    As a white woman chiming in again, I’d like to tell you, Xavier, to replace “Black Women” in every of your bullet points with “Some Women”. The same should be said on the issue of “Black Men”. Rephrase it as “Some Men”.

    Baggage is something you deal with together as a couple, no matter race, crede or religion. If your significant other is self centered, then that person isn’t so significant, are they?

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  • @Anon76 wrote: I think having a white woman as a girlfriend/wife is like having another piece of bling to them.
    Answer- You are so far from the truth.
    You should get out and ask the next Black Man/White Woman that you come across. And ask if she is another piece of bling.
    @Anon76 wrote: In any human endeavor there are two ends of the spectrum, with most people falling either slightly to the left of the center.
    Answer- Still again you are so far from truth.
    My information comes from upstanding Black Men in our society that had enough! Actors/Doctors/Attorneys/Blue Collar Workers etc. This is not a parody, far from it.

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  • Xavier,

    There is a special bed in the insane asylum with your name on it, right along side of M’s!

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  • Jane Doe, If I did not have to attend a deposition today. I would have you committed.

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  • Jane Doe
    June 13
    7:28 am

    Why, because I had you committed?? That’s tit for tat!!

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  • Xavier. Why are you still on this thread? Anybody would think you and that M psycho were the same people – oh wait, you are the same freaking person. Why don’t you do us all a favour and fuck off from my blog. You are not only a bad example of a black man, you are the worst example of ANY man, race notwithstanding.

    Take your misogynistic bullshit and go and stab yourself in the eye. Ok?

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  • All of you black women on this blog as well as others around the “World”. Especially you Karen Scott have issues with us “BLACK MEN”. If you didn’t you would not be talking about why “BLACK MEN PREFER TO DATE WHITE WOMEN OVER BLACK WOMEN”…APPARENTLY.
    All of you need to get yourselves in check. The world is changing and all of us “Good Black Men” are “Waking Up” and seeing you “BLACK WOMEN” for who you really are as (“NO GOOD”). So the next to that you see one of us in a “INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIP”. Remember we have became tired of all of your “BULL SHIT”.

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  • Xavier, you’re a paranoid dick. I couldn’t give a flyng fuck whether you were dating a white woman, a black woman, a zebra or a fucking dinosaur. I really don’t give a crap, and darling, nobody else on this blog gives a fuck either. It’s all in your head mate. I’m pretty sure that the only things that people are thinking in terms of whoever you’re with is, thank fuck somebody else has had the misfortune to take you on. Seeing as you’ve been rejected over three thousand times though, I don’t fancy your chances of keeping this woman, regardless of her colour.

    Your problem isn’t that you’re a black man, your problem is that you’re an utter cuntmonkey. Now fuck off off my blog. The next time you comment, I will block you, you fucking scrotum.

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  • “I’m pretty sure that the only things that people are thinking in terms of whoever you’re with is, thank fuck somebody else has had the misfortune to take you on. ”

    ROFLMAO!

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  • @willaful: So true, too.

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