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Why Black Men Prefer To Date White Women Over Black Women...Apparently

According to the video below, this is why some black men prefer to date white women over black women. The list is….interesting, shall we say.

Here’s their list:

1. Attitude – (Angry black woman)

2. Materialistic – (apparently black girls determine a guy’s character by their appearance and the clothes they wear)

3. Easier to approach (White girls are less guarded)

4. Family more welcoming (White girls families don’t ask twenty questions about what they do for a job etc when they meet the black guys)

5. Less controlling

6. More faithful

7. Narrow-minded

8. Complaining

9. Less room for error – (I guess this means black women are less forgiving)

10. Always assuming the worst

That list right there, compiled by the black guys in the video is exactly the reason why black women should really open themselves up to dating outside their race.

I’ve heard the ‘black angry woman’ tag more often than I care to. Whenever black men are asked why they date anybody other than women of their own race, the majority of them give this as their number one reason.

I call bullshit of course. I’m pretty sure that most guys who date white women do so because they probably find them more attractive, but for some reason, they seem afraid to just say that. Instead, they endorse the idea of the materialistic, shallow, narrow-minded, angry black woman. It’s a label that black women everywhere have really struggled to overcome.

I like what this woman had to say about black men’s excuses for not dating black women:

Anyway, what do you guys think of the list? Don’t be shy, I wont judge.

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  • Matt
    August 23
    7:59 pm

    That list is full of generalisation and stereotype, people of all races exhibit those traits. Saying that, perhaps *on average* black women do exhibit a mildly higher quantity of some of those traits (trying to word this carefully!). There’s no smoke without fire somewhere, and again this may actually be more of a stateside thing too. Because I just don’t see much of these things in anyone I meet here. Before I get into too much trouble though (!) I will quickly add that things such as respecting a man, that’s earned right ? You can’t just respect someone who is disrespectful or isn’t worthy of it. At the very high risk of causing annoyance to some people, perhaps those guys are finding a lot of black women that are angry and disrespectful, because they deserve it….? Again, I’m trying to be specific to them, because there are plenty of black guys who are very respectful and get the respect of black women. People don’t tend to get angry without reason..

    I think the lady in the final video may have shared similar reasoning… and I’m sure there’s probably a load of social reasons behind some of it too.

    Not sure that made sense..

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  • That list is a crock. IMO.

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  • Anon76
    August 24
    4:49 am

    Okay, I’ll throw my hat in the game.

    In any human endeavor there are two ends of the spectrum, with most people falling either slightly to the right or the left of the center point. Some can float back and forth across the fence because each situation presented (in this case each individual woman) determines the outcome of the man’s feelings.

    On one end of the spectrum is the black man who simply doesn’t find black women attractive. Not his cuppa. He doesn’t know why and doesn’t care why, it’s simply a fact.

    On the other end of the spectrum are the guys who play the “angry black woman” card. I think it goes far deeper than that. I think having a white woman as a girlfriend/wife is like having another piece of “bling” to them.

    Now before anyone pops a blood vessel over what I just presented – especially outside visitors looking for a fight – this is not a phenomenon I assuage only to black males. It’s so much more expansive than that.

    It applies to both sexes, all races, often religions, and can be found even as agism. The older wanting the younger, the younger wanting the older.

    Hell, I have a thing for guys with long hair. On that I’m in the middlish of the spectrum. It’s gotta be on the “right guy” and I wouldn’t rule out a guy with short hair if it’s on the “right guy”. Can I define the “right guy” in each instance. Hell to the no!

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  • That guy is the same black guy who would get upset when he sees a black woman dating a non black guy.

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  • Anon76
    August 24
    4:57 am

    @Eve Vaughn:

    Oh yeah. Gotta remember that old “do what I say, not what I do.” Sheesh

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  • Miravlix
    August 24
    11:34 am

    We simply don’t have black people where I live, but we have middle eastern.

    This group is standing out thats just a sad fact of how the human brain works and thats causing issues, issues that create anger in them.

    I’m pretty sure any country with a significant minority of white people has angry white people.

    In a African country I’m pretty sure black woman aren’t like black woman in a western country.

    I can in no way rule out that due to how badly we threat anything different that black woman in the USA isn’t more angry than white woman in a relationship.

    Saying that the nastiness of human nature isn’t causing trouble for blacks or middle eastern or whatever minority is like saying you don’t get wet standing in the rain.

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  • foosrock!
    August 25
    8:28 am

    Black women all over should give a sigh of relief that such humans will avoid them. These are certainly NOT men, so good riddance to bad rubbish. Yay for black women!!!.

    PS: Would never pollute my mind with clicking on such videos, Karen.

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  • foosrock!
    August 25
    8:50 am

    @Miravlix:

    The black communities in America have become extremely matriarchal, because black men do not take on their responsibilities. Black American women bear the children, work (in many cases) two jobs, coddle the boys, are harsh towards the girls(as if it’s their fault they were born with a vagina)are like lions(protective) when it comes to ANY black man, thusly forgetting that they are unprotected. What they get from this behaviour in return is: black men being horribly loudly disrespectful, misygonistic, predators (to the unprotected youngs girls, as there are rarely fathers at home), using them as backup everything(sex, bank, protector). I was lucky to have met my exhusband at a very young age, as,many of my exhighschool female colleagues look how horribly beaten down at their ages. I know I missed many bullets, that’s called black(American)communities.(my family immigrated in the early 70s to the US when I was a child)

    Good points you made in your comment.

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  • Lorraine
    September 2
    4:33 am

    That is a universal list that can be used by any number of commitment phobic men against the women of their race. It’s been used on me, a Jewish woman, by a Jewish man.

    The only guy who ever dumped me was Jewish, and he cited numbers 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 & 8 for the reasons he no longer wanted to see me and why he preferred dating non-Jewish women.

    No problem for me, though, as I went back to dating Christian/Catholic guys who liked my angry, materialistic, controlling and complaining nature.

    While I understand the desire to be with people who have a similar background and world view, when it comes to relationships, love matters far more than anything else.

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  • AJ1000
    September 5
    5:42 pm

    As a black man I can only speak for myself. And Yes, too many black women have screwed up attitudes and personalities. No man in his right mind wants to deal with a woman like that.

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  • foosrock!
    September 7
    7:22 am

    @Lorraine:

    Very true Lorraine and I agree and from what I observe of black men, out of all races of men, they’re the worst where committment is concerned: breeding like dogs and not taking ownership, begging any random stranger(especially black women) for change on the streets, spreading diseases with their promiscuous ways and the list goes on. Wish black women would get a clue.

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  • @Lorraine, you’re right, I’ve seen this type of nonsense spouted by inadequate misogynists oI all stripes. I’ve met white guys who say it about white women. Obviously, I avoid those guys like clap. Guys who get mail order bridessay the same about American women. Men with this mindset hate women, period. Nothing to see here. They’re just assholes..

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  • RandomWhiteGuy
    October 5
    7:30 pm

    Random White Guy here. I just happened across this while searching for something else and watched the posted videos.

    Maybe having a White Guys perspective will help, or not.
    But, personally, there are some very beautiful black women I have come across, I would of liked to have gotten to know, but attitude and a sense of intimidation while approaching made me look elsewhere.

    I’ve always wanted to date a black woman since I was younger, going to a elementary and high school which was majority of black students.

    My perspective as a white guy.

    1.) Angry or hostile black women:
    * No guy (any race) wants to feel intimidated when approaching a woman. It’s hard enough for a guy, because we have to let our guard down to approach a woman (any race), What guys wants to encounter an attitude?

    2.) White Women easier to approach:
    * As a White guy, I’ve never found White Women easy to approach and black guys, from what I’ve seen. have a better shot when approaching white women. That’s mainly because more black men have some swag and some game, where as White guys have a conservative approach. I blame white television romance movies.

    3.) Less Controlling?
    * I can’t really comment on Black women because I’ve never had any success when I’ve approached or met one. White women on the other hand are generally very controlling with white guys. But for some strange reason I don’t understand, I’ve seen white women as easy suckers for black players who got game. I guess it’s poetic.

    4.) Materialistic?
    * All guys think women are materialistic, race not required.

    5.) White women more faithful?
    * I don’t know about the faithfulness of black women, unless I were to believe what I see on the Maury’s TV show. But, white women being faithful? In your dreams! Maybe they are just better at hiding their unfaithfulness.

    6.) Family more welcoming?
    * I find that hard to believe. We grill every guy no matter what race he is when he comes home with my niece. And when you leave, we grill her as well, and we let her know whats up with whats up.

    7. Narrow-minded?
    * Unknown

    8. Complaining?
    White women complain like there is no tomorrow, but white women are good at manipulating and wording things to make you think they are not complaining. Maybe that is why black men feel white women don’t complain as much.

    9. Less room for error – (I guess this means black women are less forgiving):
    * I personally believe all women never forget and will get you back one day. But that is just my perspective from White, Asian and Hispanic women. I imagine its true for all women.

    10. Always assuming the worst?
    * I don’t think this would be based on race, but I know a lot of black women who have been dissed by black men. Maybe there is a reason.

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  • RandomWhiteGuy
    October 5
    7:48 pm

    Wow I just read some of the comments by women that were posted above mine. And women wonder why men don’t flock to them.

    Can you say… H.O.S.T.I.L.E. comments about men? Yah, that makes us want to be with you. NOT!

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  • RandomWhiteGuy
    October 5
    7:53 pm

    This has got to be the most racist and gender discriminating thing I have ever seen posted.

    “@Lorraine:

    Very true Lorraine and I agree and from what I observe of black men, out of all races of men, they’re the worst where committment is concerned: breeding like dogs and not taking ownership, begging any random stranger(especially black women) for change on the streets, spreading diseases with their promiscuous ways and the list goes on. Wish black women would get a clue.

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  • @RandomWhiteGuy: Hey Random Guy, would it make a difference if the woman saying these things was black herself? As a black woman I feel quite comfortable in taking black man to task over these kind of issues.

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  • @RandomWhiteGuy: Are they any more hostile than the black men in that video? Being civil in the face of such ignorance would be nigh on impossible for me.

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  • BlackGuy
    December 14
    7:04 pm

    Im a black guy and I have no excuse. I date white women because they are beautiful. I’m more attracted to them.

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  • I must admit, being a black man , I have experienced black angry females, as well as men of color with the same traits! That could be due to social , economic, education, biological , mental, geologic, psychological reasons…..and so on! Black folks carry deep generational levels of effects of slavery to this very day, and until we can get control of our own destiny, or direction, we will like any other human have struggles to hurdle ! This I call is war with ones self. I find the above has no color barrier when exposed! I love black women, and the same time I avoid angry people! Male or Female, with color being not a factor! I believe insanity and anger are cousins, with no fences or walls! Tho I find myself forgetting the very thing I am portraying here in words, when dealing with an issue head on, it is far more challenging when met with face to face. Almost like running a race, it takes work to meet the demanding task at hand!

    I have walked away, rather then fight the person who is at war with them-self. Only to get in the way in this particular case ,of the cross fire of the angry black woman , who was at that moment trying to deal with the problem as best she could ! I totally understood her, but did my best to avoid her! I was not so lucky in my attempt to escaping the flurry assault of her cutting tongue ! With each lash, I could fill her pain that she gave away so willingly ! There was a sense of Mother wit about her, and my soul gave way to what others would call a niggardly stuttering black woman! She cared not who heard or noticed, and she reassured to me in a southernly urban voice , that this woman was very serious! I felt like a lone white man, in a room full angry black people! ‘My God’….. I said to myself… ‘get a grip’.

    At that moment, while I was attempting to weather the barrage of blows, I found out What I said earlier to her in conversation triggered something in her past! I did not utter a word, not even an apology , for fear of more retaliation, or verbal beat down! This woman was expressing true, real emotion! To this day, I thank her, and choose my words very carefully in conversation! So indeed it was an learning experience ! Also a valuable lesson in respecting other peoples space! As I walked away humbly, I passed a beautiful, smiling black young lady, who appeared very happy, who was escorted by her handsome young white boyfriend! A beautiful couple indeed! All along I could see in me, how easy it is to judge a person, but in reality, if I was watching my own steps, I could be just as happy!

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  • Hi Jay, very interesting comments.

    The angry black woman label has almost become so entrenched in the black man’s psyche, that it’s become impossible to engage in any kind of debate as a black woman, without being portrayed as angry. I don’t think of myself as angry, and I would never deign to have a drag out fight with a black guy or anybody really, in public, but then again, I’d rather walk away from ignorance these days, than encourage it.

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  • @BlackGuy:

    Im a black guy and I have no excuse. I date white women because they are beautiful. I’m more attracted to them.

    I suspect that this is the quote for most black men who find ridiculous excuses as to why they only date white women.

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  • For Karren, I thank you for your comment! I was checking out BlackGuy’s statement, and I agree with you Karren 100%. I am a strong country boy, but I am also a Black strong man thru and thru! I grew up around white women all my life, which re-instituted my Black Pride and unselfish love for ones self and people of color! This doesn’t mean I dislike other races, but I recognize my own as an priority! I am attracted to white women, but while there is a black woman to be had, I would prefer to date black women angry or not, and truthfully speaking I’ve never dated white women! I guess that is my preference! I truly like my women black, and the darker, the better. I find Black women beautiful, and far more sexual in every way! Even the way Black women move, walks, turns my very nature on! Why do you think more white men are dating sisters openly! They know what we know! I don’t hate them for that! I think white women are beautiful too, but theres nothing like a Black woman! As a matter fact Karren, you are a very beautiful woman, and I dream of loving a Black Queen like yourself! Wow… I wish! Thats real ! I love my Black women, now I’m wondering if they love themselves?

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  • @RandomWhiteGuy

    Hey Lorrane , or Lorain, you have my apologies for the spelling of your name! I am a Black man , and after reading your statement I must admit I am a witness of seeing this type of behavior from black men as well, but I must say the Young Black men in the video didn’t strike me of having any of the traits both you and I have witness! As a matter of fact , they all seem very educated and well mannered! I think the black young men were very respectful, and are expecting the volume of disklike in your wording! At the same time , I am a Black Man who is responsible, and nothing like the negative quotes you’ve mention, and I sense why these guys would run away from people would think that negative! In a way your proving them right, tho I disagree with them about beautiful black women! Tho I must digress in my following statement!

    1) I was in a marriage to an Black Woman whom I loved! She didn’t even have to work because I had three jobs, and still taking care of business! I took care of my children, I built seven houses, I owned to bars, and I Was still putting it down! I can say. I was better then Super Man and it was not enough then for her! So we divorced, lost it all because of her pigheadedness! If you were to meet her on the street ,and ask her about me, she would tell you that that is one hell of a good man, and I made the biggest mistake of my life by letting him go! At least that is what she tells me every time I see her! I just look at her and say your probably right! We are best friends to this very day! I don’t hate her because she cheated! I don’t hate her because she was blinded by greed, and the list goes on, and on ! I fill sorry for her, because now she has a man who treats her just the way she use to treat me! Even worst! then she treated me! To top that off, I married again to another black woman, and she too didn’t want for nothing! Funny thing is they both want me back! Do I hate or dislike black women? I still love them with all my soul ! I have condition my heart only to love what God has blessed me with! My Queen of all Queens ( Black Woman)! I will find me another one , and I will never give up on her! ( Never)! That’s real!

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  • All women have some form of an attitude. In my travels across the USA from east to west. I have came across these attitudes. Been their done that if you know what I mean. Women with these attitudes need to take a good look in the mirror and take the frown off their faces and chip off their shoulders. Due to the fact that it makes them really look unattractive. A God fearing man that loves himself will stay away from these kind of toxic women. Until they learn how to love themselves first. They’re going to always possess that frown and chip that gives them that unattractive toxic attitude.
    Marcius E. Chester
    Van Nuys, CA

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  • tevin
    February 28
    1:42 am

    hair on white women is better they have long natural hair.their eyes blue,green,hazel,brown and so on.lighter skin u can see them along ways a way.black woman u cant see good cuz she so dark its kind of spooky demonmonic looking

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  • Johnathan
    March 7
    6:38 pm

    Black women are the worst human beings on the planet. Their internal sense of inferiority combined with an external braggadocio cause them to act irrationally and obnoxiously in every possible circumstance.

    If every black woman dropped dead, this world would be a better place.

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  • Danasia
    March 10
    1:27 pm

    I understand that some black guys prefer white women, but do NOT throw shade on all Black women because of your experience with one thats just plain ol’ ingnorance, not all black women are not the same! & some of you weak ass man just cannot handle the strong minded and strong willed women that we are!

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  • Jane Doe
    March 20
    3:39 pm

    What all of you are failing to tell is the TRUTH. You date white women because NOTHING is required of you! Being the sorry BOYS that you are, this fits perfectly into your life-style. Take the “SEX” book out of your hands and replace it with a “TEXT” book and maybe your nappy hair won’t look so disgusting to you. These comments about you are being given by women who still hope to win a BLACK man, so they are not telling the whole truth either. MAN-UP, you GOOD FOR NOTHING, PANTS ON THE GROUND, BACKWARD HAT WEARING, GOVERNMENT DRAINING,
    PATHETIC NOTHINGS. Now, this is the REAL truth!!!

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  • M.
    March 20
    5:18 pm

    Jane Doe, I for one do not dress like that. Before I met and married the woman that I’m with now. I traveled across the USA east to west searching for a good black women. But was turned down 3,583 times. Being raised to love myself first and have honor, respect, dignity, integrity, values, morals, character was not what the black female species wanted. The black women that I came across did not want except me for who I was. A gentleman that respected all women, not just black. If a women doesn’t love herself first how is going to find and love someone else especially a good black god fearing man. You say why are black men leaving to date and marry other women. Because you have attitude problems and we’re tired of it. Men like me do not need that in our life’s. Men want to be men with all women. Like opening doors, pulling out her seat at restaurant’s or at home. Helping her put on her coat, shoes, giving her a manicure, pedicure. Going food shopping, carring heavy packages etc. These were the things that were instilled in me by my parents/grandparents. But as usual get shot down for being weak. Also a lot of men now just stop trying like I did and just settle because we’re getting older and want to feel appreciated and loved. So at the end of the day when you find yourself lying in bed alone and are tired of the games that you have been playing with us. Remember we weren’t the ones who started this. We ended it.

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  • Jay
    March 21
    12:00 pm

    For Mr. M you hit it right on the head outstanding statement. & most black women look a good black man as being weak for that matter fact In route quickly take a hood rapper thug over a good guy ! Or take the white man over of the black man ! it’s almost like the self-destruct button! anyway I thought you made a pretty good fact of why!

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  • I am sorry for my spelling guys! I was in traffic trying to text message! I know I am wrong, but the topic is very hot and heavy, and it is most important that we seal our differences and make peace with each other! But I must say, black women carry a self destruct button near by! Use to be a time when she was the nurturer of all nurturers! Damn near Mother Nature herself! We call her Big Mommy who could calm the rushing sea! Understanding, sweet, could cure cancer or what ever problem there was, she had wisdom, and a stern hand when needed! Plus the one thing missing in our Black women….love! Don’t cost a thing but rules all things! This could save our world and whole communities! Without that, there is no trusting her man on any level.When black men were being oppress by evil our women were our strength and her understanding was vital! Now suddenly she has gone solo and thinks good men are weak, and carless thugs that treat them like whores is the answer, or going interacial or white man is it! After a while with that thinking they can’t even keep a good white man! Love is the answer! And loving yourself unselfishly is the key! We cannot do this without you, so black woman, what’s it gonna be?

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  • M.
    March 21
    3:47 pm

    Jay thank you for the compliment. I was raised were black women played a big part in my upbringing. My mother/grandmother’s/aunt’s from both sides of my family due to being raised in a 2 parent home.
    When I married the first time. I used all of that knowledge in my marriage along with the knowledge from my father/grandfather’s/
    uncle’s. All of them said to love yourself first and give her love, honor, respect, dignity, integrity, values, morals, character. Be a one woman man. And always put God first with love, trust, communication. Well guest what I was shot down as being weak due to her attitude, complaining, being materialistic etc. I tried very hard to make it work. But still was shot down. We divorced. So I left Boston in 1990 and ended up in California in 2003. Still searching for one good black woman. Still the something and settled in 2011 after being turned down 3,583 times. They all said that I wasn’t good enough. I didn’t have the right car, home, money, swagger that they wanted. Even now after I’m married and out with my wife. I get the looks and even had black women go as far as saying sellout, weak etc. So to all of the black women out their reading this. I tried with all of my mind, body, heart and soul. In my pursuit of happiness to find a good god fearing, loyal, caring, sweet, lovable black woman. What did you do shut me down. But I still love all of you, but not in the way that I love my wife. She loves me opening doors, pulling out
    her seat at restaurant’s or at home. Helping her put on her coat, shoes, giving her a manicure, pedicure. Going food shopping, caring heavy packages etc. She loves all of the thing’s that my parents/grandparents/aunts/uncles instilled in me growing up. So don’t blame me for marring another woman from a different race. I gave you plenty of chances but was shot down. So if you want to ever find and keep a good god fearing black man. Get rid of the attitude and chip off you’re shoulders. And then we will not do it.
    God bless.

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  • Hey M, I am happy u found a woman who could see the good in u that makes u the man u r! I have never dated outside my race, but if our women cant open their eyes, I just may have to! I like the fact you said in your note that u still love and basically still respect them (black women)! That is a sign of good old fashion up bringing. That is really classy! U r a hell of a man who got lucky, and found that love in your wife! Congrats! That is cool and a blessing! Good for U! I have been approached by many white women who recognize that good , and some would make a possible mate for life! And like u, my pants are not dragging the ground off my a@#, and speaking with a urban draw, walking with a over exaggerated limp. Thats just a fad of lost identity, that will ware away with responsibility! U r no way a sell out, because u tried, and that was a lot of women who kick u to the curb for being a man. I hope I am lucky like u are one day! Hat off to Ya!

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  • M.
    March 22
    3:08 pm

    Jay thanks man I appreciate that. All of the 3,583 black women that turned me down from Boston to California, made me more stronger in my quest to find love and realize that it’s not in the color of a person’s skin to find love, it’s in the heart. Color is blind when it comes to love. And I realized that if I wanted to find love I had to listen to my heart. People of all ages and races need to start doing that. We’ve come a long way from the days of living in caves and in the wilderness. And realize the world over has many different types of fruit. So why should we settle for just one type. When theirs so much more to pick and choose from. In closing black men & black women should start listening to their heart’s and stop caring about the color of a person’s skin. Look at the qualities that they have inside. Because if you don’t. Someone else will.
    Take care all.
    God bless.

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  • Well said M! I will take your advice and thank you i

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  • Jane Doe
    March 25
    11:27 am

    I notice that only MEN are responding to what you guys have to say. So, you think white women are more beautiful, do you? Then that means more beautiful than your mother, sister, aunts, cousins, etc. The white women that I see in my home town (which, by the way) is with every black man under fifty, handly fit the beautiful category by any stretch of the imagination. They are fat, with mousy brown pony tails, and pourly dressed. However, they are paying at the cash-registers. Why should they take any interest in their appearance. They have no competition because the black man feels as though he has a QUEEN. I don’t blame her for the smirk that she wears when she sees ALL of the sisters walking alone. Do you think that WHITE men do not notice what is going on? You are fooling yourselves. You have black activists fighting your cause everyday, risking their lives for you to have equal opportunities to gain wealth. But what do you do, make a fool of yourselves (I’m talking about the professional men), not SORRY one). They evenually turn all of your monies back to the WHITE women who gladly sue you SORRY BEHINDS for one reason or another. But it’s the BLACK women who are materialistic, GOLD DIGGERS. lol That is the only reason why the WHITE man puts up with it. He knows you will never have anything at the end of the day. But SISTERS are moving on despite your self hatred of everyone in your ancestory that you no long want… the only race on the PLANET that is that STUPID!! So my dear WHITE SISTERS, keep paying his bills requiring nothing from the men you sleep with. BLACK women have too much class and are saying among themselves “BETTER SHE THAN ME”!

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  • M
    March 25
    5:39 pm

    Jane Doe. This is a new day and era. That’s probably why your single. No decent God fearing blackman or any other man for that matter who Loves himself first and has Honor, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Good Character wants to hear the negativity that’s going on with you and other women like you. I for one, after being shot down 3,583 by black woman made me realize love is color blind.
    For one, black women played a big part in my up bring especially due to being raised in a 2 parent home. I learned a lot after I started searching for Love with my heart. Instead of worrying about what other people thought. I don’t think about my wife’s skin color. Because I put God first in our marriage. We as a people have come a long way from the days of living in caves and the wilderness. And should see a person for the good that they have in their heart’s. If everyone started doing this. Skin color wouldn’t be a issue and we wouldn’t be talking about it on this forum. Things will never change as long as women like you keep thinking that way. I really feel sorry for you Jane Doe. You have it within your heart to change. Look for the good inside of a man that comes your way. But first you have to start loving yourself. Real men want to be men to women that they meet. But women like you don’t see the good in them until after they became tired of the attitude and chip on the shoulders, materialisticness. And decided to move on to somebody who was able to see the goodness inside of them. That’s what happened to me. Don’t get me wrong I still love my black sisters but not in the way that I love my wife. Blackwomen should stop shooting down good blackman, thinking their weak. Because in the end you’ll be the ones single and lonely with children from some “nut” after making the wrong choices. Remember the world over has so many different kinds of fruit. So why should people stay with one specific type when theirs so much more to choose from. Love yourself first Jane Doe. Because if you don’t you will not see the forest through the trees.
    Take care.
    God bless.

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  • Jay
    March 25
    10:24 pm

    Dear Jane Doe, Times have changed! I am single because I choose to be. I haven’t found a sister that has caught my eye yet, but I love sisters! I fill the same as you about them not filling me! But I have not given up on them! I don’t even date white women, but I have given it some thought if sisters are not available! I love my women black as a coal mine at midnight! They are hard to find! Most are taken. But truly…..love has no boundaries! So I am now looking within a person of interest to be my girl! I like a girl who doesn’t need makeup, takes care of her mental plus physical, enjoys the out doors, and compassionate, understanding,loves to travel, faithful, can have an intelligent conversation, give and take plenty of constructive criticism! And knows what love is, and can return that unselfishly! Thats not asking a lot! I loveeeeeeee women of color! Do they love themselves enough to love, and trust their man?

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  • I will make this one LAST comment! I am old enough to be those boys’ GREAT-GRANDMOTHER! So much for feeling sorry for me being SINGLE. My husband was a PROVIDER and a self made man….AND, OH, he was BLACK!… I have a deceased son who would be forty-seven and a thirty-nine year-old..so, I’ve lived my life! You are the ones who should be under INSTRUCTION, not me! You are a product of a black man and a black woman most likely, so tell me AGAIN what logically you think must have gone wrong!! A BLACK woman gave birth to you!! Now, you have a PROBLEM with HER. That is nothing but a LAME excuse. Do you hear black women feeling as though it’s a NEW day? Perhaps for YOU, but not for HER. A white man might date a BLACK women, but WHITE MEN have a TYPE, and you know that!! We can’t all have that ISLAND LOOK!! I notice that few of the black young females have boyfriends, BLACK or WHITE, and do not try to tell me that it has anything to do with their attitudes, they are usually not the WHITE man’s TYPE, or the BLACK man’s desire, being that they are not blond-haired and blue-eyed! The attitude is caused by them realizing that they are no longer desired. What came first…the CHICKEN or the EGG…?? YOU go up to the BOOK counters and see the BLOND-haired, BLUE-eyed women and are brain-washed into thinking that that is what you should have! Have you not NOTICED, YOU DO NOT look like that!! THERE-in lies your NEW DAY!! I cannot wait until the WHITE woman wakes up to it!! Take this observation in LOVE, because one day you will have daughters going through the same dilemma. Then it will be TOO LATE for you to STAND CORRECTED!!!

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  • M
    March 26
    4:56 pm

    Jay, Jane, everyone has a right to choose what makes them happy. The world has changed. I tried very hard in my quest for happiness with a Black Nubian Sister. But I didn’t have what they wanted. They didn’t believe in me and want to take the time to get to know me. To see my good qualities. The only thing’s that was on their mind’s where how much money do you make, what kind of car do you drive and do you rent or own a house or condominium. So after getting shot down, I kept getting up and trying over and over again until I reached 3,583 sister’s. This happened from 1990 to 2011. From Boston to California. I searched everywhere in churches, bookstores, libraries, colleges, museums, shopping malls, the beach, even clubs and on the internet and was still shot down. But soon as I stopped and started searching with my heart. God introduced me to my beautiful wife who excepted me and loved me for the man that I am. And didn’t judge me. I decided that I had enough. With how black women treated me. And that I was a good black man who Loves himself first and had Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Morals, Values, Good Character. Who still believes in chivalry and treat all women with Respect. But was considered weak until I met my wife. I will never get the chance to find out what Love was with a black sister now due to the fact that I wasn’t good enough for them. So to all my Black Nubian Sister’s or any other woman that’s reading this. When you come across a good man know matter what the color of his skin is. Get to know him, the person inside. And then you’ll realize all he wants to do is treat you right. In this day and age it’s hard to find a God fearing. Good one woman man. Who wants to give her those family values that where passed down from his mother, father, grandparents. And wants to make her feel safe when she’s with him, married or in a relationship. Don’t shot him down. Because in the end he’s going to end up like me.
    God bless.

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  • M
    March 26
    6:26 pm

    Jane Doe reread my comment again and you’ll understand. Black women now day’s are not the same when you were growing up. I respect all of the comments that you’ve made. Please respect mine. This is the way that the world is. I myself wish that it was the same way that my mother, father, grandparents told me when they were growing up. When they dated and married for love. But things have changed. I have their values, morals in me, and use them in my life every day. But wasn’t excepted by black women, and was considered weak. If black women or any women on that matter hasn’t been raised to Love themselves First and have Honor,Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Good Character. How are they going to find a good man. Women now day’s want to experience what life has to offer them. If it means turning down a good man to be with the wrong one. And then after they start getting older and want to look for a good man. After they have been used and abused with children from someone else. Or wanted to start a career and have their cake and ice cream to but not with the right man. Read the papers Jane. Its happening all over the world in all communities. And not just the black ones. I am a good provider and my own man. That’s why my wife loves me. Because I’m real and not trying to be someone that I’m not. My feet are planted on solid ground. Black women or any women for that matter will remain single until they open their eyes and stop thinking the way that you do. And putting good men down. My mother, grandmother’s told me when I was being raised to find a good God fearing Black Nubian Queen and get married and raise a family. Love, Respect her and have good communication and trust and put God first in everything you do. And most of all be a one woman man. And if you can’t find that. You have our blessing to search elsewhere. Well as you can see I honored their wishes. No disrespect to you Jane Doe. That’s the way that it is. The world over has so many different kinds of fruits. And if you can’t find any of you’re own, theirs plenty other kind to choose from until you find what you like. Good men are everywhere no matter what their skin color is. The same as good women are everywhere no matter what skin color is also. It’s up to us as a people to look past this. Because if we don’t we will die without have found what we really need. And that is Love.
    God bless.

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  • Ismail
    April 9
    7:39 am

    LOL those list were kind of insulting to Caucasian women.
    But only one thing you got it right, it is true Afro American females are aggressive which I like, but not always. Here is a little story that made me less interested to date girls of my own race.
    I came to United States from east Africa and was a high school student. Things went fine, as I enrolled to an American high school and had a chance to complete what I have left off.
    In the first day, I went to a math class, where the tacher welcomed me and put me in an assigned seat for me. Couple minutes later, he said he will put us with a partner, so I was excited and nerves. Surprisingly, an Afro American fine girl was my partner, she was sitting other side of the class so she was packing her stuff to come to me. Then she went to the teacher to talk to him, and it seemed to me she was complaining saying that doesnt want to work with me. I was so damn shocked, and my feeling were hurt so bad. After that ncident, I have been avoiding AA girls. Because I dont want to have those feelings again.

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  • Burntriceboi
    April 21
    2:04 pm

    I’m a black man currently with a white woman. not cuz I addicted to white women, but I just love her that’s all. me, I like classy confident, women with sex appeal. ALL races of women have these types of women. and this “GHETTO” thing, alllllll races of people have people they know they can call ghetto. I’ve seen white, black, Hispanic, Asian, and Indian “ghetto” people. I’m genuinely one of those guys that doesn’t have a preference on race. I HAVE a preference on class, attractiveness, and sex appeal, condfidence, and how she carries herself. I dated her we fell in love and the rest was history.

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  • Burntriceboi, Well spoken, and much respect!

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  • Erica Allen
    April 22
    1:02 am

    Jay and M, I don’t know what Black women you have been meeting and maybe YOU need to check the type of Black woman that attracts your eye… Maybe the thing you openly detests is the thing you secretly desire… You attract what you are… I’m an attractive Black female who loves her race and one or 4000 bad apples will not cause me to give up on all Black men. I’ve taken care of a Black man, been cheated on, and left to raise my own child… Why? Because I was considered too square… But they thought I was beautiful, sexy, not clingy, a good cook, love family … But still wasn’t good enough. So, now I look more intently at a potential mate… Look at his track record, what he stands for… Not just in his speech, but in his actions… I am more observant now… But never will I jump ship… Love is always hopeful!!!

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  • Erica , I am attracted to black women, and have yet to date outside my race! I am available ! I am in the Cleveland Ohio area! U can get me at jaycrosby67@yahoo.com

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  • M
    April 22
    3:42 am

    Erica, as soon as people’s start loving with their hearts and forget about the color of their skin, the world will be a better place for everyone. That’s how I met my wife. She way everthing that I was searching for. To me it wasn’t about her skin color. It was about how she carried herself. Her Honor, Respect, Dignity, Integrity, Values, Morals, Character, Love for herself. And she wasn’t materialistic. With her it wasn’t about money, cars, homes, clothes, job etc. And most of all she is a real Honest, God Fearing Woman. I found out after being turned down 3,583 times that if I was ever going to find the woman that I was searching for, that I had to pray and put in God’s hands. Remember Erica love is colorblind. And as far as jumping ship. We’re all on the same ship, God’s ship. So how could I have jumped. Choose you’re words carefully Erica. God will bring the right person into you’re life when he feels that you’re ready. And the way that I see it from reading you’re comment you’re not ready. God has provided the planet with so much fruit. He’s the one who chooses the person that you spent you’re life with. Some people that come into you’re life is just a learning experience until he knows that you’re ready. And when that happens you better be ready. True love only comes around one time. Everything else is just a learning experiences.

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  • Erica Allen
    April 22
    4:02 am

    M thank you for your words, but you contradict yourself… If you’ve been turned down that many times, one must wonder how did you meet SOOOO many women? What are you doing in your life…did you even take the time to KNOW that many women… Somehow I don’t believe you. I trust God with all that I am and even He did not allow His people to mix with certain other people… In fact when they did He ordered the people’s death. You don’t know me so before you start talking about we are all people of God, you should know who you are talking to… And Know your Word…. I know mine… Did that many women truly turn you down!? How? How did you meet that many women? Why were you keeping count… You seem to be wearing that number like a badge of honor brotha!! Excuses are tools of the incompetent!!

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  • Erica Allen
    April 22
    4:06 am

    I believe when it’s time for me to meet the right one… I’ll be ready. I trust God… I’m doing exactly what He wants me to do at this time in my life… And life is beautiful!

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