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Sunday, February 14, 2010
Posted in: Azteclady Speaks, Valentine's day

Valentine’s Day is here, and with it–as with many holidays–people are overwhelmed by the pressure. In this case, the pressure to pair-up.

Some of us are happily coupled, and yay for that, but for far too many of us this is a holiday seemingly designed to make single people feel miserable.

Which is utter bullshit, of course, but it’s often very hard to ignore the marketing campaigns all over creation, along with the societal expectations–i.e., people are supposed to be part of a couple or something is not quite right.

On that note, I love this post by Crazy Aunt Purl, one of my favorite bloggers. Here are a couple of snippets of it for your reading pleasure:

Happiness is an inside job. How can any other human being ever look inside your heart and see what will make you happy? Especially when most of us don’t even know ourselves? I love the idea of lifting yourself up to possibility. I am hopeful, I am optimistic, and I think pure hope can dash fear. I think life is wide and we are small.

There are so many roads to personal fulfillment, even ones I never expected. I’m happy for all of us, those who fit the bill and those of us who wandered a bit. We create a new happy each day, each in our own way.

To everyone out there, single or paired up, may your life be joyful. Find your happy and hold on to it!


  • Happiness is an inside job. How can any other human being ever look inside your heart and see what will make you happy?

    I don’t think that anybody knows exactly what will make somebody else happy, but the intent and the attempt itself is enough for me.

    It’s been a while since I experienced Valentine’s day as a singleton, but even as part of a couple it can be pressurized. TTG knows that although I appreciate flowers, I think they’re pretty pointless and a waste of good money, so knowing me well, he bought me an audio book of Barack Obama’s Dreams From My Father. A book that he wrote way before his being president was even a possibility. This book is narrated by Obama himself, which is pretty fantastic.

    I like that TTG knew me enough to get me this book, instead of the traditional dozen red roses. Like I twittered earlier, it’s not like you can read an effing rose is it?

    Happy Valentine’s Day hun!


  • eggs
    February 15
    11:29 pm

    Personally, I think Valentine’s Day was invented by a man to ensure he’d get laid at least once a year.

    I think for those of us who are coupled and secure in that, it’s a non-event. For those of us who are happily single, it’s an annoyance. For those of us who are alone and unhappy about it, or who are insecure in our relationships, it can become this massive millstone of depression about What Love is Supposed to Be. All in all, I think it’s a day we’d be better off ignoring. On the bright side, three days later you can buy masses of pretty flowers and chocolates on the cheap, and I must say, that does make me feel happy!


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