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(With apologies to TeddyPig, there aren’t any torn nylons or running mascara involved… that I know of, at least)

So. No sooner do I wince at the latest cyber flounce than I find myself pondering whether to say something about my disappointment with a particular online venue, and my reluctance to lurk—let alone post!—there anymore.


Hypocritical of me, probably, because I also find all sorts of reasons and justifications to post a long screed. Things like, “I’ve belonged to this community for a number of years” and “I’m a frequent contributor” and “I have not indulged in hyperbole or name calling.”

Thankfully, the decision has been made for me. Someone extremely level-headed, respectful, articulate, professional, and kind has been banned from that forum for ohmygawdhowdareshe! asking questions about what appears*** to be a new moderating policy: holding people accountable in that forum for what they say elsewhere online. Considering that I agreed with her—only I would have probably worded it a bit more *ahem* forcefully—all down the line, all my posting on the issue would get me would be a) post deleted, followed by b) banning, with a corollary of c) “we are doing the best we can but all those mean people keep coming here to provoke us.”

***I use the word “appears” advisedly, because while it is not stated anywhere it’s been used on more than one former community member during the past few weeks.

All of the above, plus the whole “no cyber flouncing for you!” thing, made me refrain from commenting on the… well, drama in progress.

And in the end, does it matter what I think?

Probably to very few people, to be sure, but hey! when has that stopped me?

So here you have some disjointed thoughts on the matter—skip at will. (more…)

As a corollary to the cyber flounce musing of yesterday, I remembered reading this article online, and wondering how on earth it was considered “news”:

Faceless communication online or over phone

often turns nice people nasty

No shit, Sherlock.

I mean, honestly, are we just noticing this? As far as I can tell, most people who have been online more than a few months know it—and if they don’t see it in their own behaviour, they see it from other people with whom they interact online.

Let’s take our old friend Vicious Rhinoceros, for example. I’ve read that people who have actually met her in person have a lot of trouble relating the nice-nice face-to-face person with the VR online persona.

My favorite line in the article, though, is something a few of us have been saying for a while now:

“People need to recognize that they just can’t send out these blogging responses and e-mails and expect their anonymity to be preserved. It probably won’t be. Recording devices are everywhere and Web 2.0, with its user-generated content, greatly amplifies the Net’s power to expose and publicize.

“It also archives forever.”

No! really? 😉

huh-hamsterOnce again, I either have too much time in my hands or am procrastinating.

Thing is, I’m thinking about the seemingly overwhelming need some internet users have to perform the (always welcomed) cyber flounce.

In my relatively limited experience (I’ve been online just over a dozen years, but mostly I have stayed put in my little corner of the intratubes, so… limited experience), there are two main types, whether performed on a blog or wider forum.

The brief one consists of a relatively short post, usually ending with, “and I’ll never come back here again!” (for a recent example, check out this comment)

The… well, I’ll call it epic flounce, for it’s really much bigger than the previous one. The epic flounce has a few minor variations, but for the most part it’s a longer post (or even a series of posts) giving a helluva lot of unasked-for information, explaining all the reasons that have led the poster to “never come back here again!” (In a few cases, it can be about how other people have forced the poster to close her blog, or to make it private—after posting all about it, of course— or how she’s been banned by the mean girls, etc.)

And I have to wonder at the need to point out that a person is “never coming back here!” Wouldn’t that person’s absence say it for her? (more…)